When I was growing up, one of the things my dad always wanted to impart to me and my sister is that we got to do the choosing when it came to our lives, our loves, and the paths we wanted to forge for ourselves. He encouraged us to not sit on the sidelines and wait to be chosen.
I recently had a shift in a significant relationship in my life and I was telling a friend about the sadness I felt when it seemed like no one was choosing to go down the same path as me (melodramatic, but you know how feelings are). He kindly reminded me that I was the one that had chosen the path in the first place.
It's much easier to view things as happening to us and surrendering our power to choose. And listen, we've all been dealt an incredibly rough year that NO ONE could have predicted (although I did receive the death tarot card as my theme of 2020, wtf), and it has not been easy to see what choices are even available to us.
But I wanted to share this with you to remind you that despite what 2020 has thrown at us so far, we still have the power to choose what we do next.
I also want to acknowledge that to even have choices is a privilege. And for those of us who carry privilege, our choices can create more access, options, and opportunities for those who might not.
You are more powerful than you know. You have more choice than you might realize. When we look towards our futures, who do we want to be in charge of the choosing?
I'd love to hear about any empowered choices you've made recently. Just reply to this email to share.
P.S. An empowered choice I made last month was addressing my relationship with technology in Christina Malecka's Screen-time Lifeline Support Group! Her 2nd Cohort starts this Sunday. Find the details here (our community gets 10% off if you use the promo code THREEMOON).
📱Psychotherapist and Digital Well-being expert Christina Malecka is offering a Second Cohort of Screen-Time Lifeline starting on July 5 that will meet on Sunday evenings for 5 weeks from 4 – 5:30pm PT, ending on August 2. I was lucky enough to be part of the first cohort, and it was exactly what I needed during quarantine. The whole series is only $200, and if you use the code THREEMOON at check-out, you get 10% off. Last time we talked, Christina told me that there are only 4 spots left! You can get more info and register here.