hey y'all!** we're back with the evolved the unfolding, a monthly newsletter curated from the heart for you. here I'll share reflections for you and I, events and gatherings, and beautiful things I have witnessed. thank you for being here and unfolding with me. ✨
between COVID, the social reckoning for racial equality, and shift in the workforce - we've been hit hard. unaware of what this moment was pulling from me, i felt guilt because i couldn't show up, didn't have the energy to be productive.
no bubble bath or nap helped me feel better...
this is happening on the outermost layer of our reality while the immediate & intimate layers are still moving, still shifting, still being disrupted. a long-time coachee reached out and told me she, too, was battling this guilt. she too was trying all the self-care and it wasn't working. she, too, felt like she should be doing more.
those "should's" brought us to a discovery...
this moment is a new moment.
the old ways to heal and replenish ourselves may not be working.
we may feel the ending and the discomfort of so much shifting.
& homie, that's okay.
this time is a call to evolve and rediscover.
new context, new setting, new internal state means we need to allow space for re-discovering the things that will help us replenish and be our best selves. for me, i had to stop thinking that i could care or rest myself back into productivity on my own. my new version of a bubble bath was video chatting my auntie while she was drinking some wine. my new version of a nap was sitting outside with my pup.
i had to rediscover what caring for myself truly looked like.
& that's what shifting and evolving calls us to do.
Use these questions to tune into how your shifts and needs:
how does it feel to be me in this moment?
what is currently new and different about my inner and outer being?
what have am i keeping out vs. letting in? is that supporting the best me?
what have i been expecting of myself? has that felt loving?
events & gatherings
events i'm working on for you to grow, cultivate, and discover within likehearted folx.
Thu. July 16th, 6pm CT a guided session that creates the space to reflect individually, create authentic connections through small group discussions focused on processing uncertainty and the present moment.
Wed. July 29th, 6:15p CT a guided space for wrestling with the wildness of the ever changing internal and external world, leaning on radical compassion and reflection to discover our becoming. (if interested message me or comment below!)
beautiful things i've witnessed
people, experiences, and words that i have loved
- @revelatoriis this illustrator, storyteller, therapy enthusiast that i found on Instagram through an amazing set of illustrations on "ways to check in without asking how are you doing?" #radicalcaring
- community care is real and growing y'all. this post of 12 community fridges in NYC made me cry. this is the #communitylovin we need right now.
- i was honored to guest hosted one of these little connections by Katie Elliot last week. this was a space that made me feel whole and welcomed even in a group of strangers. free, 60 minute on topics like purpose and growth - join one of these spaces y'all!!
No matter what you are facing and how you are feeling, I know one thing is true:
You are worthy of a full, well and whole life.
Even if the world tells you otherwise, they don't know the truth of your inherent worthiness. Sending you all love, compassion, and wholeness.
"Standard English… is the language of conquest and domination; in the United States, it is the mask which hides the loss of so many tongues, all those sounds of diverse, native communities we will never hear...we create the ruptured, broken, unruly speech of the vernacular... There, in that location, we make English do what we want it to do. We take the oppressor’s language and turn it against itself. We make our words a counter-hegemonic speech, liberating ourselves in language.” -bell hooks taught me. & more here.