Are your questions 

creating or crushing?

 

A few questions 

about questions...

what type of questions are your go to?

 

DEPLETING QUESTIONS

 

And you think that's going to work?

[some times stated or simply inferred]

 

You've got to be kidding?  

 

This form of question discourages innovation and energy rather than inspiring creativity and confidence to face the challenge. 

 

Try:  Can you explain more about your idea and how it could work?   [be curious about how you might be able to build on ideas for a collective solution rather than dismiss it all.]

SHAMING QUESTIONS

 

Is the work completed? [when you know it isn't]

 

Do you know how to do that? [when you know they don't]

 

Are you asking questions you already know the answer to?  This uses energy to shame and/or blame.  It's about who is right and wrong, good or bad.

 

Try:  The work appears to not be completed.  Is there a way I can offer support so you can finish the project?  [be curious of how you can equip and encourage without enabling aka doing the work for them.]

CURIOUS QUESTIONS

 

These questions offer oxygen.  They look at what can be, potential.   The focus is on possibilities rather than problems.  They create space for vulnerability and learning.

 

Try:  

What do we want the outcome of this work to look, feel and function like? 

 

How can we leverage the collective wisdom at the table to move towards solution? 

 

Am I showing up in ways that inspire or derail  meaningful progress when facing a challenge?

 

 
 
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