Here's my offering for you this week: 

The new Summer Fun Collection I've put up over at Body Liberation Stock features three people (two women and one non-binary person) splashing around in a shallow river and creating community. You can browse and buy the stock images here.

 

Hi friend,

 

This week's thought describes open bigotry and fatphobia in a medical and healthcare treatment setting. Please protect yourself as needed.

 

“As I sit across from my 5’ 8” 350-pound client, I am filled with discomfort and fear. In the grip of my terror, I want to fix her, to make her healthy and to protect her from our vicious fat phobic culture. I am aware of my anxiety as I fidget in my chair. Staying present is difficult. I find myself wrestling with two thoughts. I want to empower her, “Go out there and live your life to the fullest,” and I want to heal her, “Why aren’t you taking care of yourself?”

 

– Harin Feibish, a grown-ass professional who has somehow been allowed to have contact with fat people

 

Last weekend, I learned one of the reasons there is such rampant fatphobia and fat hatred in healthcare. You can google “Yalom and Betty” and learn for yourself if you’d like, but I highly advise that you don’t. I won’t link or even describe it here, except to say this:

  • Yalom is emeritus professor of psychiatry at Stanford University.
  • His fatphobia goes beyond vile into body terrorism.
  • He once treated a woman named Betty and describes her, in his book, in the most hateful terms possible.
  • His book is required school reading for psychologists, psychiatrists and therapists.
  • This man is widely respected in his industry.

Healthcare providers are being indoctrinated with hatred before they even leave school, on top of the naked fear and loathing our culture provides as a lifelong education in how fat folks should be viewed and treated.

Some providers are able to keep these quiet parts quiet. Others say them out loud.

 

In July 2020, the Renfrew Center, a chain of eating disorder treatment centers, included a horrifyingly fatphobic article [PDF] titled “In The Grip Of Hunger: Large Women and Their Therapists” by Harin Feibish, LCSW. I’m honestly so taken aback by a therapist willing to say the quiet parts out loud like this that I’ve got nothing as far as a thoughtful, detailed response. Right now it looks more like a primal scream.

 

» Just to emphasize: This piece was written by a credentialed professional, and her workplace thought highly enough of it to publish it as an official, approved viewpoint. Twice.

 

» This is not a new article. A colleague of Feibish’s claims it was written in the 1990s, and the introduction to the newsletter makes it clear that the article is being reprinted. Which means that not only was this considered okay to publish, not once, but twice (presumably with updates, unless Feibish had been already practicing for 40 years in the 1990s), it’s clear that neither Renfrew nor Feibish have overcome their prejudice enough to realize how wildly harmful and inappropriate this is.

 

» Though this was published in a publicly-accessible newsletter, it was clearly never intended to be seen outside provider spheres. It’s clear that neither Feibish or Renfew thought about or cared about the impact this would have on other providers — especially other providers in fat bodies — or on patients, prospective patients or members of the public who live in these despised bodies.

 

» Pro tip: “Taking care of yourself” is always, always code for pursuing intentional weight loss. In other words, dieting. An eating disorder treatment specialist is openly wondering why her fat client isn’t dieting.

 

» I’m going to do Feibish the favor of assuming that she wasn’t the one who diagnosed this patient with binge eating disorder and that the diagnosis is correct. Why am I giving her the benefit of the doubt on this? Because many, many fat folks with eating disorders are misdiagnosed with BED purely due to body size. Fatness itself is not an eating disorder, many fat folks who do have eating disorders do not have BED, and people in smaller bodies also have BED.

 

» Various people in thin bodies have been responding to this piece with, “I appreciate her honesty.” How would you appreciate her honesty if you lived in a body so loathed that people need to do grounding exercises when you walk in the room? The only people who should be exposed to Feibish’s honest feelings on fat are her supervisor and therapist.

 

» Many patients at eating disorder treatment centers in the U.S. pay out of pocket for treatment. Roberta may have been paying tens of thousands of dollars to be treated this way.

 

» We’re not stupid. We can tell when you’re uncomfortable with our bodies, and we can certainly tell when you’re so disgusted you can hardly be in the same room with us.

 

» Is it any wonder that people who live in a world that treats them like this will amputate perfectly healthy organs (i.e., have weight-loss surgery) so that they might one day be treated like humans?

 

» Listing the height and exact weight of a person as the first thing you see is an excellent way to encourage readers, many of whom can’t even visualize what 350 pounds looks like, to dehumanize this person right off the bat. (Also, since 350-pound patients are vanishingly rare in ED treatment — we can’t even get diagnosed most of the time — how anonymous is this client, really? Not very.)

 

» Fat people do not exist as a (paid!) learning exercise for thin people.

 

» There is already harm being done by Renfrew’s publication of this article. Fat people I know who’ve seen it have said that they’re now even more hesitant to seek healthcare of any kind, knowing that not only will most of their providers think this way about them, but it’s even considered acceptable to say so right out loud.

 

» Can you imagine sitting in a room where a trained healthcare provider with a degree has to do grounding exercises to conceal her loathing of you? Can you imagine never knowing when you’ll encounter this, but knowing it will be often? Can you imagine encountering this when you are at your lowest and most vulnerable, and are seeking mental healthcare treatment? Can you imagine encountering this every day of your life?

 

» The author of this piece apparently did Renfrew’s “body image” programming and was regularly allowed and encouraged to be around fat folks. (She is no longer with Renfrew today, but is in private practice.) People she’s physically, viscerally terrified of. After 40 years of practice.

 

You can read Feibish's piece over on the blog (again, content warnings of all kinds apply). 

 

As you think about this, it's easy to be horrified and think Feibish is one bad apply, but I'd like you to consider how common these attitudes are and how often fat folks come into contact with people like Feibish. How might that change how you experience the world? How might it change your willingness to pursue needed healthcare? How might it change your outlook?

Warmly,
Lindley

My favorite photo this week:

Free Download: 58 Body-Positive Journaling Prompts

Some folks who signed up for my 58 Body-Positive Journal Prompts download this week weren't able to receive it due to a system issue, so I'm including a download link here for all my newsletter friends. Please enjoy!

 

Body image journaling helps deepen our awareness of our bodies and our spirits and analyze our relationship and interactions with a world that often pushes us to see ourselves in certain ways.

 

(This download is just for you. If you'd like to share it with a friend, please send them to the signup page.)

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Stock Photos for Body Image & Body Positivity Coaches

Not only are images that represent a wide range of body sizes and types good for your marketing, you can also use them to help change the world. When we see ourselves represented in marketing, advertising and social media, it helps expand our internal vision of what’s possible and where we belong.

 

Using diverse stock photos for coaching and counseling helps show your clients and patients that you value them no matter their body size, health status, age, ethnicity or gender.

 

These pictures and illustrations are designed for:

  • Positive and healthy body image and self image
  • Health at Every Size (HAES) and body acceptance
  • Body image, intuitive eating, body positivity and life coaches
  • HAES providers and professionals of all kinds

The Conversation

Here's what's being discussed this week in the world of body acceptance, HAES, body positivity and fat liberation:

Need a good 101 or refresher on bodies, fatness and science? I always recommend Body Respect by Linda Bacon and Lucy Aphramor.

 

New Stock Site COMING SOON MAYBE

You heard it here first: There's a very good possibility that I'll be able to release a brand-new site for Body Liberation Stock by the end of 2020 that will offer a smoother customer experience AND ALSO real credit bundles and subscriptions.

 

We've done enough designing and testing that I'm fairly certain the solution we've cobbled together will work, but I'm waiting on my pocket developer (I have the enormous privilege of being married to a software developer who is occasionally able to help me out) to determine whether uploading the thousands of photos with the metadata we need will be a quick automated process or a months-long manual process.

 

I'll keep you updated! There are also some behind-the-scenes posts about it going up over on Patreon.

 

 

Quick Resources: Facing Weight Stigma from People Close to You, vol. 2

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Hi! I'm Lindley.

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Hi! I'm Lindley.

 

I'm a professional photographer (she/her, pronounced LIN-lee) who celebrates the unique beauty of bodies that fall outside conventional "beauty" standards. I live outside Seattle, WA. 

 

I talk about and photograph fat folks because representation of large bodies in the world is vital to our body liberation.

 

 

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