Hello Everyone and welcome to the fourth edition of The Nap Times! If you are receiving this and do not want a monthly newsletter from me, simply unsubscribe at the bottom. I totally get wanting to simplify and declutter your inbox and will not take it personally.


This fourth newsletter is going to cover how we manage the kids' chores. I am also going to link you to a blog post all about Mother's Day (trust me, it's a good one!) and end the way we always do with the current reads, listens, and things watched.

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Ah, the joy and frustration that is teaching your kids independence and responsibility…


I want to preface this entire section by making it clear that my kids are still young, and so I am still pretty new at this. We have used lots of trial and error to get to where we are and go through seasons where we forget completely that chores exist and the house turns into a dumpster fire.


Last summer, when JR was freshly 5, Scout was 3.5, and Millie almost 2, we decided we needed some structure to help with the absolute monotony of 2020. I am a HUGE fan of Canva and find it to be the easiest way to make charts that are both easy to read and comprehensive for my kids that are not able to read yet.


At this time, we implemented our first chart and didn't call them chores. We also didn't do any sort of allowance. There was simply a morning to do list and evening to do list. These were basic things required of you to be a clean, contributing human in our house. And no, Millie did not participate. Most 15-18 months old have no concept of a clean room, or brushing their teeth without also attempting to ingest the entire tube of toothpaste.


I am showing you the two charts below. And the bottom of this email has a quick Canva tutorial that my amazing assistant Jess made. (By the way, Canva.com is free. This is not sponsored. It really is an amazing website.) 


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This was the original chart we made for the kids. Short, clear, simple. 

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Over time, that chart morphed into the above, which is what we use now. Each day, their two main living areas are to be cleaned and their teeth brushed.

As you can see, we keep the chores minimal. Outside of what is on that paper, the kids are expected to clear their plate and generally pick up after themselves. You know, be kind, contributing humans. For the sake of making it short and manageable, we stuck with no more than three items for both morning and evening. 


Adding the allowance…

Over time, we decided to start adding an allowance for Johnny and Scout. This was honestly less about feeling like they deserved money for basic hygiene, and more about introducing the invaluable principles associated with managing money. 


Each week, we gave them three dollars. In actual one dollar bills. We have slowly been teaching them about giving and they have the opportunity to do this at church. 


Honestly, three dollars felt like the perfect amount to easily do SPEND, SAVE, GIVE (simplifying it to a dollar each) so that's why we started with $3. We learned about SPEND, SAVE, GIVE from friends, who learned it from the book The Opposite of Spoiled: Raising Kids Who Are Generous and Smart About Money. While I have not read it, it's on the way!


They kids have, however, recently received a RAISE! They now sort, fold, and put away all of their clothes. Nate and I loathe this task, and very quickly the clothes end up disheveled in their drawers anyways, so why not let them fold them? JR and Scout now each get $4/week and Millie has started to get $1/week for cleaning up her room.


I know this might seem small, but the lessons learned have already felt invaluable. For instance:


A few weeks ago I took all the kids to Costco. There is a small section that usually has a few toys and books and Scout and JR were both anxious to check it out. Scout found a make a face sticker book she desperately wanted and asked if I would get it for her. I responded, “I won't buy it, but you have $10 in your allowance bag. If you want to get this book, it will take all of your allowance.” She decided it was worth it and to be honest I think it was. We got home and she made sticker faces for hours. 


John Robert, on the other hand, was also wanting to spend his money. There was this large sheet kindergarten workbook that I knew wasn't worth his whole allowance bag but he insisted he wanted it. So, I let him get it. Once home, he did the activities for 5-10 minutes then grew bored with it. 


I later got to ask him if he thought it was worth his entire allowance and he sadly said that it wasn't. I then got to explain to him that I also use my money on things that aren't really worth it (hello, impulse buy!). It's a mistake we all make time and again and have to learn from. 


The beauty of this was that my kids started to see the value of their dollar! I could see their little brains working…wondering if the item they held was worth their hard earned money. 

So that's the long and the short of where we are in the kids chores/allowance category. We still have a ways to go and lots to learn, but I hope that helps some of you.



*I am going to use this section to only share things I read/watched I would suggest to another person. I definitely read/listened to/watched some duds! 



Barefoot by Elin Hilderbrand. Yes, I am still obsessed with Elin. This one follows three women, one of whom has two young kids and is battling lung cancer. I will say, having young kids myself, parts were super sad to read. If you have any fears associated with cancer or know someone who is suffering from/has suffered from cancer, this book could be triggering. 


I am in the middle of The Psychology of Money: Timeless Lessons on Wealth, Greed, and Happiness and to say I like it would be a huge understatement. I LOVE it!!! Be prepared for a full rundown next month. It, along with Dollars and Sense, are two of the best books I have read on the topic of money.



The main thing I have (since January) been listening to is The Bible Recap and I cannot sing its praises enough. It is by far the best Bible in a Year plan I have ever done! I listen to the Bible passages each morning using the YouVersion app that has the reading plan already on it and then listen the the episode of The Bible recap which comes to my Podcast app every morning. (ONE CHANGE I HAVE MADE: I now listen to the podcast recap episode before the actual Bible part. I have found that hearing the main points in the recap has really helped me to listen better to the actual Bible reading and be on the lookout for things as opposed to starting out confused.) It has helped me to understand what I am reading more than ever before. Listening to all of this takes me around 15 minutes each morning. It is completely free, by the way. Such an amazing resource!


I binged the Rooted Parent Season 1: “All About Boys” with David Thomas (he is also on the Raising Boys and Girls podcast I talked about last month). This podcast was so good for my heart as I enter this new phase of raising a boy becoming a young man. 


Jen Hatmaker had Joanna Gaines on her For the Love Podcast so of course I had to listen! I feel like it's rare to see Joanna on a podcast and I thoroughly enjoyed it. 



I continue to rewatch Friends on HBO Max each night on the iPad while I cook dinner. It makes me laugh and laughter is GOOD medicine right now. 5pm is MAGICAL at our house. The kids get to watch a show, I get to cook and watch Friends in peace. It's the best. 


Over my girls weekend we also watched Runaway Bride and decided vintage Julia Roberts is unlike any other. Runaway Bride, My Best Friends Wedding, and Mystic Pizza are all currently on Netflix and so good for the soul. Next I need to watch Pretty Woman. 



A quick note on Mother's Day!

If you personally struggle with unmet expectations or knowing how to feel loved, this blog post is for you. It also covers a wide range of women you might want to consider showing a little extra love to this Mother's Day. This is one of my favorite blog posts to share, and I hope you enjoy it. 


That's all I have for you this month. Thanks for reading!