Issue 12 | Aug. 8th, 2021                                                                                                tinyurl.com/reify821-12

Reify 8&21

Welcome to your 3-minute pause. 

Let's focus on your practice of pursuing awesome.

 

The terrible Self-Esteem poster

 

The term "self-esteem" is a victim 

of the middle school inspirational poster. 

 

(You know the one—a bird flying over the words, 
"SELF-ESTEEM: Believe in you and you can do anything!" Ironic, since… no matter what we believe, 

we actually can’t fly like a bird.)

 

What is self-esteem, really?

 

Self-esteem (n): 

a respect for yourself and your abilities.

 

Self-esteem as confidence 

 

"Starting and growing a business is one of the hardest things I've done. I've learned so much from this journey but the main thing is that I will rise to the occasion and overcome whatever challenge I face."

 

What if self-esteem isn’t the pressure to be able to “do anything” 

-- 

but instead, the belief in what you can do, 
and the never-ending respect for your value either way.

 

"True reassurance:

not that one’s plans will inevitably work out, but that one’s human worth is not on the line if they don’t."

 

A self-esteem mantra

 

"There's no payoff in self-doubt. 

No one should believe in you more than yourself!"

 

"That mantra reminds me that I need to bet on me 

every single day and that criticism, unless it's constructive, only aims to hurt."

 

"Persons of high self-esteem are not driven to make themselves superior to others; 

they do not seek to prove their value 

by measuring themselves against a comparative standard. 

 

Their joy is being who they are, 

not in being better than someone else." 

- Nathaniel Branden, Canadian–American psychotherapist and writer known for his work in the psychology of self-esteem

 

Self-esteem as peace

 

"As someone who naturally values control, 

and tends towards critical standards, 

the idea that we don't have to know everything 

for it to be okay is a very peaceful reminder 

to trust in grand designs and accept life as it comes."

 

“A successful competition for me is always going out there and putting 100 percent into whatever I’m doing. It’s not always winning. 

 

People, I think, mistake that it’s just winning. Sometimes it could be, but for me it’s hitting the best sets I can, gaining confidence and having a good time, and having fun.”

 

 

How does your self-esteem show up? As confidence? Respect? Reassurance? Peace?

 

🎉

Great job!

Way to take a pause and give 3 minutes to your practice of pursuing awesome with this issue's theme. You rock!

 

Reify 8&21 is a digital publication 

intentionally sent on the 8th and 21st
to disrupt your status-quo 

with an encouraging reset.

 

Photo Credits: 

 

Self-esteem scrabble and brushstroke images by Pawel Czerwinski

Woman at computer photo by Christina @ wocintechchat.com

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