"Last month—like so many working parents—I was struggling to balance my job and my family. My kiddos were home with colds, and my worries were overwhelming.
'Maybe I can't balance work and two kids. This is so hard!
I should be grateful for time at home with them. Am I'm taking on too much?
Is their immunity too low? We all need to eat more vegetables.'
In the face of stress, I was trying to “worry plan” my way out. But in the process, I was treating temporary challenges like long-term problems."
"OK, it's a no-bones day,
it's a no-bones day!
But I don't think that's a bad thing."
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Tik-Tok star Jonathan Graziano, reporting on Noodle, his internet-famous 13-year-old pug.
Every morning, Graziano helps Noodle up from the pug's dog bed. Some mornings, Noodle stands. (A “bones day”.)
Other mornings, Noodle flops down back into his bed.
(A “no bones day”.)
Graziano has quipped that a no-bones day isn't a bad thing, necessarily—but a reminder to rest and recharge.
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Change is constant.
Worrying doesn't have to be.
We asked Reify Spotlight Series interviewee Nicole Dhruv, Data Scientist, to share what she wishes she'd known 10 years ago.
Her quote reminds me of how I sometimes “worry plan” to avoid feeling the challenges around me.
The power of acceptance.
“While cultivating a positive mind-set is a powerful coping mechanism, toxic positivity stems from the idea that the best or only way to cope with a bad situation is to put a positive spin on it and not dwell on the negative,” said Natalie Dattilo, a clinical health psychologist with Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston.
“It results from our tendency to undervalue negative emotional experiences and overvalue positive ones.”…
“Research has shown that accepting negative emotions, rather than avoiding or dismissing them, may actually be more beneficial for a person’s mental health in the long run.”
The key, Dattilo said, is finding “a more balanced approach to how we understand how we feel and what we do about it.”
“It’s okay to have a positive and optimistic outlook and feel sad at the same time,” she said. “We can feel sad and be grieving and still look forward to the future. Both of those are necessary for a healthy outlook and sense of well-being.”