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Long time no see, First name / Babes!

 

We're kicking off this next 3 months with a new format I think you'll enjoy. I'm pivoting a large part of my work focus into a yearly revamp of the client resource hub, otherwise known as The Snack Shack 🍿😜 

 

So while I'm over there, our newsletters are going to be short-er-form than usual. However, you're still getting the helpful resources, next steps, and reflection prompts you love! And hell, if the condensed format ends up being a crowd favorite, we'll keep them this way. 

 

But alas, I need your feedback in order to keep bringing the heat so give me your unfiltered thoughts on what you like, what you need, or what you're not digging so I can keep improving and we can get you moving and grooving in the direction that's right for YOU! 

 

I’ve observed something whilst scrolling the interwebs lately I want to bring to your attention because I think it could clear up quite a bit of confusion around how we tend to perceive building healthy habits. Or how we perceive a lack of consistency whilst attempting to establish habits, rather. 

 

 

And whether it be missing a few workouts while sick, eating a few days worth of ‘bad’ food when stressed to the nines, or taking a much-deserved vacation from work, all your best efforts are inevitably going to be derailed? Or maybe you fear not having the same drive of motivation once you ‘get back to it'? 

 

I've been there! There was a time where my consistency, or lack thereof, determine how good I was allowed to feel about myself. 

 

And to be honest, the further I’ve gotten into my own journey of food, exercise, behavior, diving into the effects of those things on the brain and body, I forget that I used to believe this myth of consistency to my very core. 

 

 

Like I did, you probably feel confident, capable, and on fire when you’ve checked all the boxes, right? But when you don’t, even temporarily, you immediately feel like a helpless loser. 

 

The narratives I found myself in sounded like, “I lack discipline… need to find my willpower… have to get motivated… OR ELSE I’LL:

•Never reach my potential

•Spiral into bad habits

•Have wasted my time for nothing

 

I really believed the best of myself would come from making demands and enforcing them with personal threats… 

 

I know you won't believe this just because I say it, but being rigid in your approach to habits literally hinders their liklihood of forming. So yeah, you can beat yourself up to get there- but what if you could be just as successful, if not more, by loving your way there instead? 

 

It's 10x harder to adopt healthy habits when you're using negative experiences, thoughts, and feelings to bully yourself into otherwise healthy choices. If you want to feel inspired and excited by the changes you're making, then you must cultivate a positive experience in your pursuit of building those habits!
 

 

Rigidity of routine has been preached by hypocrites since the dawn of time- It’s not your fault you’ve been told those somewhat-robotic processes of perfection are the standard to shoot for if you want to build consistency. However, I can promise you're not making things easier by using exercise as a punishment for eating junk food or fixating on “or else's” to scare yourself into action. 

 

If it makes you feel any better, the people preaching “Nobody cares, work harder” are struggling to build habits too! They're fighting themselves, shit-talking themselves, and shaming themselves into adherence- not behavior change. (Even if they don't let you know that!) 

 

It might be helpful to remember much of the ‘success’ propaganda we’re fed doesn’t come from behavior-modification experts busting their ass in the field to help people improve their quality of life, but from CEO’s, Ted-Talk guests, and money-driven media companies trying to trend off of people’s relatable insecurities.

 

Example: The “creator” of 75-Hard had never completed a 75-Hard himself before promoting it as a jumpstart to building long-lasting habits…. Meanwhile, he literally yells nonstop about building discipline and how defeating laziness if the ultimate f*ck you to the world. 🙃 Not to diminish anyone's personal struggles with behavior change, but that's some big talk  for someone to position themselves as an authority on the topic when they haven't found success with behavior change for themselves... (A standing NDA keeps me from speaking more on this individual and their ongoing hypocrisy, but this is unfortunately very common in the industry from gut-health gurus to bodybuilding bros.) 
 

Alas, from work-life to home-life- otherwise known as just life- we’re told to reenact some version of the same routine every single day. Which benefits your workplace… but what about you? Your loved ones? How about your aspirations, interests, and future plans? 

 

 

 

So, yes, Consistency = Repetition = Success. But not in the way it’s been crammed down our throats. 

 

Let's look at it from a tangible view: Exercise is promoted as stress-relief. But bioenergetics researcher here! 👋 Exercise is 10000% a STRESSOR on the body even though it can be a de-stressor for the mind. 

 

While you might be wanting to start a 5-day workout out of the blue because #BetterYou…going from 0 workouts a week to 5 workouts a week annihilates your Central Nervous System and muscular-skeletal network. (Which is going to require more than 2 days of ‘active recovery’ in order to push itself back into 5-days of stress all over again next week!)

 

When you're lacking proper recovery, you end up with fatigue, overtraining, problems with sleep, moodiness, heavily increased appetite, and sore muscles. (Sore muscles are sign of bad-recovery, not a good workout.) 

 

In this light, as I often discuss with my clients, it's not always appropriate nor helpful to load an exercise routine into your life if you're already locked and loaded into a heightened state of stress. 

 

 

We tend to see this more clearly when it's related to extrinsic areas of our lives, so try this on for size: You might feel like you have to over-perform for your boss or people-please in your family in order to get the respect you deserve. But you fail to see that giving more of yourself is only going to make you feel more exhausted and taken advantage of. You don’t need to prove anything more when you haven't yet identified what's causing the chaos at its root.

 

 

What if I told you there’s a way to be effective and productive that doesn’t make you want to rip your hair out and naturally concludes with ongoing consistency all on its own? (And doesn’t require you to place your self-worth into anything but yourself?)

 

You don’t have to understand behavior change methodology to understand that doing something in a way that can be sustained is going to give you ten-fold the consistency, and success/results, overtime than committing to a 0-100mph approach that burns you out in a matter of days or months. 

 

The first step is giving yourself permission to look at consistency in a different light- one that pokes holes in your assumptions of what it takes to get where you want to go, but mostly in your definition of ‘enough.’

 

Don't sleep on the giving yourself permission portion of that sentence. 😉 
 

What ideas of healthy living are carrying the weight of facts in your head?

Where did these ideas come from- are they your own?

When you set your goals and establish routines, whose standards are you using?

 

 

I help my clients create their own unique processes so they build consistency that can adjust from one season of life to the next. So if consistency is your downfall, I'd love to take you in and show you the ropes! If that makes you randy, then you can book a First Date to talk about it here, or you can get more info by scoping out my services here. 

 

In the meantime, hit reply and let me know what you think about the newsletters thus far or let me know what would be helpful for me discuss in future ones! 🤟

 

•If coaching is a good fit, we'll get you started. 

•If not, we'll get you turned around in the RIGHT direction!