One thing I hear often from people is “I will never forgive them” or “If I forgive them then I am letting them off the hook.” I find that most people do not understand what forgiveness is truly about and that was me many years ago. I used to be one of those people who NEVER forgave people for I believed if I did, I was saying their behavior is acceptable.
The Webster Dictionary defines the word forgive as follows:
1: to cease to feel resentment against (an offender): PARDON forgive one's enemies
2a: to give up resentment of or claim to requital for forgive an insult
b: to grant relief from payment of forgive a debt
It is the first two of these definitions that forgiveness represents for me. Forgiveness is not about the other person getting away with something they did that harmed us, it is about us not giving them anymore power over our lives. When we hold on to resentments, anger, and hurt we can never find inner peace and true self-love. By not forgiving someone you are allowing that person to hurt you repeatedly.
I want to also point out that just because I forgive a person does not mean I have to welcome them back into my life, nor does it mean I have to tell them in person that I forgive them. All I have to do is forgive them in my heart and when I do that it means is that I am free! Free of the anger, free of the resentment, free of the pain they caused me, I am free of them.
We think by holding on to the anger and resentment and refusing to forgive that we are punishing them in some way, but are you? Is it really impacting their life at all that you won’t forgive them? I bet not, but it is impacting your life and your peace of mind.
So, my question is who or what are you holding resentment towards? Who or what are you not forgiving? Isn’t time that you do? Isn’t time that you deserve some peace in your life? Forgive that person or situation and let that go! After all that IS what you deserve.
Practicing Ho’oponopono has taught me to be even more forgiving, not only towards those that harmed me, but more importantly towards myself for the harm that I caused me. I find the Ho’oponopono prayer or mantra or whatever you want to call it to be a powerful one and I say it often daily. It is I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.
May you all find the blessings of forgiveness!
Intuitive Energy Healer and Psychic Medium
"Forgiving isn't something you do for someone else. It's something you do for yourself. It's saying 'You're not important enough to have a stranglehold on me.' It's saying, 'You don't get to trap me in the past. I am worthy of a future'." Jodi Picoult
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