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“Good luck, nobody’s good at golf!” 
 
These are the words I was met with earlier this year as I shared my pursuit to improve my golf game with some of my co-workers. 
 
“Improve” may not be the right word. There must be an established golf game to improve it. It may have been more accurate to say, “I want to learn and get good at golf this year.” 
 
That dismissive response was discouraging in January, but now, well into May – having logged countless hours with a club in my hand over the last five months – I’m beginning to understand what they meant. Being good at golf is really hard. It’s an unforgiving game. To do well on the course a hundred things have to go right. You have to be able to drive, chip, and putt – you can’t just hone and rely on one aspect. In addition to skill, a good swing, and making solid contact with the ball, you also need the mental stamina to endure 18 holes regardless of how you are playing. You have to hold the tension of accuracy and efficiency – and the added pressures of having other eyes on your game and the fear of delaying the players behind you don’t help either effort. One bad hole can really upset your scorecard (though I wouldn’t know much about that, because at this point every hole is still pretty rough, something my scorecard makes clear).  
 
Despite my weekly, consistent effort, I’m still not good at golf. 
 
But I am getting better. 
 
At least that is what I’m being told by those patient enough to play with me. On Friday, my friend Allison told me she was so impressed with my improvement. I responded with shock. “You can tell I’m improving?!” 
 
It’s hard to recognize any improvement when change is so incremental. 
 
Practicing golf is teaching me so much about sanctification. Or has sanctification prepared me to practice golf? I think it’s both. What I know for sure is that both pursuits are slow and subtle, and unless you’re really paying attention, it’s easy to miss the ways in which things are changing. 
 
The goal for the Christian is Christ-likeness – that over time we might be transformed into the image of Christ. 2 Corinthians 3:18 tells us that as we behold the glory of the Lord, we are being transformed into that same image from one degree of glory to another, by the power of the Spirit. 
 
The way I’m practicing golf right now reminds me so much of my early days as a believer. I was fourteen years old and hungry to devour my Bible, to talk with and learn from other believers, eager to combat sin, and desperate to grow in my love and knowledge of Christ. 
 
Those things are still true and by God’s grace, I can confidently say I know and love God more today than I did then, and I’d like to say I look more like Christ today than I did then – but my pursuit of Christ doesn’t always feel as desperate or ravenous as it did at 14 or 19 or 22. The longer I have followed Christ, the more comfortable that pursuit has become. Practices that once took extreme discipline have now become everyday habits. Conversations that were once met with fear or trepidation are now faced with a God-grown confidence. I have 18 years of following Christ to look back on and I can see how incremental change over time has amounted to real transformation. (Thank you, Lord!) But I never want to be so comfortable with the change that has taken place, that I don’t continue to long to see new  change take place. I want to grow, I want to be transformed, and continue to pursue looking more like Jesus today than I did yesterday.
 
The Lord has been using the time, attention, and energy I’ve put into golf and the tiny, microscopic improvement I’m noticing week after week, to spur me on in my pursuit of Him. I’ve been reminded that practice is always a worthwhile endevour. I’ve been reminded that there is always more to practice, always areas to be refined. 
 
I want to walk more intimately with God, pray more honest prayers, spend more time hiding His word in my heart, be quicker to confess sin, be slower to speak, and more attuned to His voice. I want to look back in another 18 years and 18 more after that and know confidently that I look more like Christ and less like me. Not because of my own effort and energy, but because of the transforming power of the Spirit that resides within me. 
 
Forgive the sports metaphors today, friend – but if settled into a comfortable position, what might it look like to ask the Spirit to help you improve your game? What about your pursuit of Christ feels easy or comfortable and where might you have an opportunity to challenge yourself to practice or press into christ-likeness in new ways? 
 
The good news for those in Christ is that there is a day coming when we will see him as he is and be made like him when he appears. What exactly does that mean? Only the Lord truly knows. But until then let’s do all that we can to practice Christ-likeness today. 
 
Beloved, we are God's children now, and what we will be has not yet appeared; but we know that when he appears we shall be like him, because we shall see him as he is.
1 John 3:2

Worth Following
Y'all. It's no secret that social media is a mess. I'm so grateful for anyone that is leveraging their platform and space online to point people to good and true things. Here are a few edifying instagram accounts that I have really enjoyed lately. 
A note for my friends not on social media: 
I just want to be another voice that is telling you that you aren't missing out on a thing. You can glean from all of these women via their own websites and you don't have to be on Instagram to do that. Stay strong, my friend! 
 
There are godly ways to opt out of social media and godly ways to interact with social media, wherever you find yourself, I pray you would walk in that conviction with confidence!

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A last minute guide to Mother's Day!
1. Big Buckle Birks for the trendy mom. 2. A neutral bracelet for the stylish mom. 3. A liturgy for parents for the new mom. 4. Momma Beth's memoir for the mom that loves a good story. 5. A permission slip in the form of a book for the creative mom. 6. Raffia slides or 7. Gladiators for the summer-lovin' mom. 8. A reminder that she is seen for the grieving mom. 9. Chucky hoops for the cool mom. 10. A gorgeous candle for the mom with a design eye. 11. The perfect white dress for the classic mom. 12. A simple cap for the casual mom. 
13. Tortise Goodrs for the practical mom. 14. Happy comfies for the cozy mom. 15. Statement earrings for the bold mom. 16. The best skirt for the sporty mom. 17. A simple and chic dress for the effortlessly beautiful mom. 
 
I know Mother's Day is both beautiful and complicated for many, I'm praying that you might find and extend grace beyond measure this weekend.

A Guide to Mexico City
Eat + Drink
Café Nin | Breakfast and lunch, I wanted to eat here twice
Pandería Rosetta | Breakfast, coffee, incredible pastries
Churrería El Moro | Dessert + Coffee
Contramar | Lunch and dinner, do not miss the whole fish
El Huequito | Tacos, you can find them all over the city
Jenni's Street Quesadillas | Tacos + Quesadillas
La Capital | Dinner + Cocktails, five star food for every day prices
Cuina | Breakfast and lunch, incredible pastries, music, and vibes
 
Shop 
Utilitario Mexicano | Home goods
For All Folks | Natural Skin Care
 
Stay + See
Zócalo | Chapultepec Park + Castle 
Areas to stay/walk around: La Condesa | Roma | Polanco
 
Mexico City is completely underrated and positively delightful! I can't wait to go back! I hope this list proves helpful if you are lucky enough to find yourself exploring the beautiful streets of CDMX. 

Right Now Round Up

Things I'm loving right this very minute!
  • I loved this teaching on marriage from my favorite seminary professor, Sinclair Ferguson. I found it to be helpful and encouraging for the married and single alike!
  • I'm embarrassingly late to this party, but have y'all seen Tournament of Champions on the Food Network? If you like Top Chef, this is another great cooking competition full of so many familiar faces. It's not even on right now, but I'm catching up on old seasons on YouTube TV.
  • If you're in the market for Miranda Priestly's townhome, you're in luck! It's currently for sale and I had fun looking at this Devil Wears Prada listing.
  • I'm still obsessed with this lemon curd crumb cake recipe. I keep looking for excuses to make it!
  • I found this podcast about preparation to be very simple and very helpful! If you are always running late, wishing you had thought ahead, or constantly running from thing to thing (Hello, it's me!), I think it might bless you too!
  • I'm still thinking about this cutie and squeaky clean rom-com I read last month! Add it to the top of your summer reading list. 
  • Did you know that Kimberly Perry just released If I Die Young Part 2?!
  • My friend Lindsay made this sheet pan gnocchi for a picnic at the Arboretum and it was perfect for spring and was enjoyed just before it start pouring rain on us!
 
Happy Tuesday, friends. 
This is one of my favorite ways to create and I'm so thankful you keep reading. 
 
If you made it all the way to the end, I'd love to do a little giveaway of some of my favorite things for summer (Supergoop, OPI nail polish, and some other fun things) this time around! 
 
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Thanks for being here,

Marissa

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