When I was about to graduate college, my mom and I got into an epic fight.
It was one of those arguements that was built up from years of unprocessed trauma that left us not speaking for many months.
This made for a very stressful and awkward transition into adulthood.
But I was determined to not ask for help.
I remember at one point, I called Verizon to take myself off the family cell phone plan. In another example, my mom mailed me a graduation gift - a check - worth more than a month's rent at the new lease I had just signed. I sent it back.
To say that I've been like this a while - the type of person who doesn't like asking for help - is an understatement.
Last summer, enjoying some drinks by the fire while visiting my dad, I remember commenting that I would sooner collect cans than dare ask either of my parents for financial help.
No, I'm not sure where this origin story begins, but I'm working on uncovering it, processing it and healing from it.
The same rule applies in my business. I can count less than the fingers on one hand the amount of times when I've reached out for help.
❌ No asking to be other people's podcasts
❌ Never asking for a lead
❌ No asking to share my freebie or resource
❌ No asking for coffee chats to learn about ways to collaborate
❌ No asking if I can write a guest blog post or do a IG Live
Honestly, it's ridiculous.
Especially because as someone who considers themselves a content creator - I need content spaces to fill.
When other people reach out asking me to promote their stuff, 99% of the time I'm happy to do it because…I can't create everything.
Truthfully, I know my business is behind and my revenue has suffered because I've been unwilling to ask for help - especially when it comes to attaching myself to other people's audiences.
I've 100% relied on building my own stages and platform vs going the much easier (and smarter!) route of attaching myself to others.
