Do you feel stuck in your life because you don't believe in yourself enough to reach for your dreams?  This was me for most of my life.  We get programmed by other people's perceptions of us and those programs become our truths. It is realizing that all those programs are nothing but lies, they are projections of other people's beliefs about themselves.  Read that again!

 

Most of my life I believed I was never smart enough to achieve my dreams for that was what I was told over and over again growing up.  I am hard of hearing and because of that I had a speech impediment, and this made me “stupid” according to my mother, teachers, and even my peers.  I was also told I was lazy and would never amount to anything and I believed that for most of my life.  I basically just existed and was miserable.  I hated myself because I believed what other people projected onto me.

 

This is what we do sadly is we project our own insecurities onto other people.  We project our fears onto other people.  How many have told other people they should not do something because you have a fear of doing that?  I know I have.

 

Even today I sometimes fight those fears. In my work as an Intuitive Healer/Psychic Medium I still have anxiety about “what if I can’t read someone” or “what if I am wrong?”  The thing is I am not 100% accurate, I don’t know any psychic medium who is.  Reading energy and communicating with spirit is not black and white and sometimes I misinterpret messages received or I get in my own way by allowing doubt to creep in.

 

When we trust and believe in ourselves, we can move mountains.  It is amazing what we can achieve when we stop believing in the lies we were told about ourselves.  My father used to say to me quite often “never let anyone else define who you are!” Those are powerful words for that is exactly what most of us do.  We are allowing other people to define who we are and what our life should be.  I wanted to be a marine biologist, but my mom told me I was not smart enough and convinced me the best I could do was be a secretary.  So, instead of pursuing my dreams I went to business school. I allowed my mother to define who I was. 

 

I did not embrace my worth until I turned 50.  Something inside of me just said enough, you have lived your life based on other people’s perception of you and their expectations of you.  After 50 years of being unhappy and afraid I just decided that I have had enough.  I was scared and insecure and still wasn’t even sure what it was I wanted to do. But everything was leading me to the work I am currently doing and I love it! I finally feel like I am NOW being authentic to myself.  I finally know my worth and no one will ever take that away from me again.

 

When we believe and love ourselves magic happens, we finally get to embrace the life we want. We finally begin to value ourselves and we stop giving other people power over us.  I used to believe that as a psychic medium I had to do “readings” only because that is what people's perceptions of psychic mediums do right? I did that for years.  I used to go to people’s homes for group readings and I would do gallery readings for the Mt. Washington Hotel every Halloween for years and I hated it. It wasn’t what I wanted to use my gifts for.  I was not nor am I a “showman”.  I hate being in the limelight and I never wanted to be famous, and still don’t.

 

So, I followed my true path and became a spiritual counselor and healer.  This work feeds my soul, this work feels authentic to me.  But sometimes doubt still creeps in and I have to remind myself this is what I was born to do.  I have embraced my father’s words “never let anyone else define who you are!”

 

Embrace your dreams and passion without fear, trust that everything you need to live your best life is inside of you. Speak to yourself the way you would your best friend or anyone else for that matter for I am willing to bet you would never say the things you say to yourself to anyone else, so why is it ok for you to do it to yourself?

 

You can do anything for you are magical. Embrace your power and never let anyone take that away from you again.  Yes, you will experience doubt, fear, and anxiety, but remember all of that is due to past programming.  Learn to reassure yourself or find someone who will tell you your truth if you need that occasionally reassurance that you’ve got this.  Even I need that once in a while.

 

So, here’s to you living the best version of you and realizing just how unstoppable you truly are!

 

Namaste!

 

Pat Laurino

Intuitive Energy Healer/Psychic and Spiritual Medium