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What anxieties, if any, do you hold about your life/career? And how do you deal with them?
Oh, I have plenty of these! I think one of my main ones is not making enough of a difference in the world. It sounds rather grand, maybe, and also like perhaps you should get out a tiny violin, but it is true. But actually, I try and work for brands who genuinely want to make things better - whether it be by providing jobs for people in rural areas or encouraging people to eat less meat. At Halen MĂ´n, we are going for B CORP at the moment, which is very exciting.
 
My friend Jaya also had some helpful advice on this one (it's worth saying here that she has a job making an undeniable change for good in the world) - she said it didn't have to be your job in order for you to make things better for other people. I do some volunteering, have done a fair amount of fundraising, and try to remember that maybe being a good member of the community, a friend etc., maybe that's enough?
 
How do you deal with procrastination?
For me, this is the classic thing where the most important things in my life are the things I put off for the longest. For pretty much as long as I can remember, I have wanted to write a novel. And now that, at least twenty years later, I have finally started on a few ideas, scraps, characters, thoughts - I find myself procrastinating about that more than anything else. Things that help: setting myself physical timers, putting my phone on flight mode, writing as soon as I get up, not checking my emails, and having a notepad beside me so I can write down any things that I remember and not get distracted by them, making sure my workspace is tidy and clean.
 
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What do you consider your biggest failure? And how did you persevere and grow from the experience?
I started and ran a shop for three years, where I did up second hand furniture. It wasn't technically a failure, as it made just enough for me to live off. I had lots of lovely customers who were very nice about it. Still, if I'd thought about it more carefully, I think I could have guessed that I'd find the day-to-day side of running it quite unstimulating. I loved the buying and the merchandising but largely realised it absolutely wasn't for me. I guess what I took from it was some real understanding of how a business works on a fundamental level, and also the creative skills of buying etc., are ones I still use now.
 
How do you overcome self-doubt and fear when working on a new project?
I really think there is only one piece of advice when it comes to this, and that is: to just start. I kept reading things that gave this advice in various forms, but I never really absorbed it. Then my brother bought me Jimmy Carr's book 'Before and Laughter', which I very unexpectedly found incredibly inspiring. The basic sentiment was: get going and do it now.
 
Do you have any rituals that help with your work or mental health?
In 2020, in lockdown one, I started dreaming of running every night (not sure what Freud would say about that). Eventually, at the grand old age of 30, I bought myself some trainers for the first time as an adult and started the classic Couch to 5K. Pretty quickly, I had that cliched realisation - exercise isn't just for people who wear expensive athleisurewear and don't have to stop every so often to catch their breath. It sounds so silly now, but I was so nervous about people seeing me running, what my body would look like, how slow and how red I'd appear. I think so much of that comes from horrible experiences at school. But I got over that very quickly and getting into proper exercise as an adult has been absolutely transformative. It helps clear my mind and allows me to process the day ahead.
 
I have a routine that I try my very hardest to stick to because if I give myself an inch off, I know I will never run the mile. I so rarely feel like going, but I have never, ever regretted going once. Thinking about it, this is a rule I could probably apply to quite a few areas of my life - writing, drawing, cooking. Most of the things that make me feel better by doing them.
 
I ran a half marathon on my friend Jen's birthday in 2020, and what she had told me was absolutely true - that achieving something you didn't know you could do physically would help you be braver in other areas of your life too. 
 
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Can you recommend any resources that have helped you in your career?
The first thing that comes to mind is talking to various people who I'd describe as mentors or influences. And the person I immediately think of is Anna Jones - an award-winning chef who has changed the conversation around vegetarian eating in the UK and beyond. I have worked for her part-time for nearly ten years, so she has been my boss, but she's been an influence in my life beyond that. I don't think I thought I could get a book deal (and write one) before I worked with her. She really opened a super exciting door for me - to a world of vibrant food and creativity, and showed me that to persuade people to do something (e.g. eat less meat), it's much better to lead with deliciousness rather than denial.
 
What's the best and worst advice you've ever been given?
A couple of pieces stand out. A long time ago, my mum told me that the world owed me absolutely nothing. On the surface, it sounds incredibly harsh, but actually, I am so fortunate in my life in so many ways, it seemed like an important thing to absorb. I am not saying I succeed every day, but I try my best to be grateful for what I have and continue working towards what I want.
 
It's not specific advice as such, but I do think it's generally considered a good thing to be good at one thing and to stick to it. Actually, I did an English degree, went back and did an Art Foundation year, then did a Graphic Design higher education course alongside a full-time job, and now am studying a fairly hefty course writing fiction alongside my current day job. I've also had a stint helping run an online comedy club (that's another story.) I don't know why you should limit yourself to one thing and fully intend on becoming a Jess Of All Trades.
 
How do you navigate social media? Any rules or guidelines you set for yourself?
I feel conflicted about social media, but if it wasn't a part of my job, I think I'd have gone cold turkey by now. I try to limit the apps I have on my phone (I only have Instagram), set all the timers, and always mute people who make me feel like I need to be thinner/richer/more photogenic. I love Insta for finding new ideas and a community, but I find it horribly addictive, and if I'm honest with myself often feel it would have been time better spent reading a book.  
 
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Much love, 
Lilith and Arabella

L+A xx

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