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Hi friend,

Isn't the photo above fun? That's a client at their small business photo session with me, merrily rolling down a hill.
 
Business photo sessions sound kind of stuffy, but they can be a lot of fun when we bring your personality into it. I'll be telling you more about Kyra and their small business when the blog post about their session goes up, but in the meantime, you can learn more about my photo sessions for small businesses here.
 
A followup:
 
In response to this recent letter about body-mass index and the value we place on certain bodies, reader Andrea Tsavahidis-Lawrence says,
 
"You invite me to reflect and do better. I have certainly used the NFL player before or even Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson. Your post put words to the reason why it felt so icky to say/believe.
 
Something about the intention of the NFL/BMI connection statement feels very similar to conversations about dieting and weight cycling. This is usually in coversations around set point. How many times have you heard this? "Dieting will make people lose weight and when it fails, they often will gain even more weight." While this might point out the counterintuitive nature of dieting for it's purported purpose, it is still framing weight gain as a negative outcome. I have personally stopped using this language for that reason because it seems to come from the same place as the NFL/BMI fairy tale."
 
And now to this week's letter:
 
Once a friend of mine observed that in their daily life, they just felt like they didn’t see many fat people at all. And it’s true: fat people are often missing from public life, especially very fat people. Why might that be?
 
BMI is bull, but let’s use the master’s tool for a moment to examine the master’s house. I live in a body that is quite fat and my BMI is 42, so let’s use a BMI of 40 as our starting point. 
 
Depending on which source you reference, people with a BMI of 40 or more comprise 6-10% of the American population, so around 10% of the population is fat of the kind that you’d notice walking around in public. 
 
So where are they? Why isn’t at least 1 in 10 of the people you see out and about (in non-COVID times) very fat?
 
Well, that 10% of the population is also a group of people who face significant barriers accessing public life at all. Thin people have designed a world that excludes us.
 
💔 If I can’t buy professional clothing, you won’t see me in your office.
💔 If I can’t fit in an airplane seat and people stare and glare at me when I buy two, you won’t see me on your flight.
 
💔 If I can’t wear any of the clothing sold, you won’t see me at the mall.
💔 If I can’t fit on the rides, you won’t see me at the theme park.
💔 If I’ve been discriminated against in hiring, you won’t see me in the elevator.
 
💔 If I can’t fit in the chairs, you won’t see me in the waiting room.
💔 If I can’t fit in the desk/chair combos, you won’t find me in the classroom.
 
💔 If I can’t fit in the booths, you won’t see me at the restaurant.
💔 If I can’t fit in the seats, you won’t find me at the theatre.
 
💔 If all the casting calls include “attractive” as a proxy for “thin,” you won’t see me on stage.
💔 If I can’t have knee surgery, you won’t see me at the gym.
 
💔 And if I’ve been denied knee surgery and gotten too many glares and stares for using a scooter at the grocery store, maybe I just stay home, get all my groceries delivered and stop offering myself up to the pain and abuse of even attempting to exist in a public sphere that was designed to push me out.
 
I want you to note that I’ve done something very deliberate here: Most of the statements above start with If I can’t. If I can’t. If I can’t. Now, I’d like you to go back and re-read those statements, replacing “If I can’t” with “If people with thin privilege have arranged it so that I can’t.”
 
How does that change the responsibility for those outcomes?
 
The motivations, of course, vary, but every single one of those broken-heart bullets is the consequence of deliberate decisions made by people with a specific type of privilege (that of thinness). This is what oppression looks like.
Warmly,
Lindley
 
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The Conversation

Here's what's being discussed this week in the world of body acceptance and fat liberation:
 
It's Gypsy, Roma and Traveller History Month (read)
 
mermay 💐 (see)
 
Eating Disorders Support ChatBot Promotes Weight Loss (read)
 
Sharon Maxwell is talking above moving on from NEDA (read)
 
Lizzo's tribute to Tina Turner (watch)
 
🦄 Unicorn chaser: A forever mood
 
 

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