What I love most about the Geminis in my life is that when I am feeling blue, they are always ready with an uplifting, lighthearted offer: whether it’s a joke or a story or a silly suggestion, whether I really want it or not, I know they are ready and willing to flip the script. I am one who is prone to diving into my emotional depth, seeking to understand the shadows in cold, dark waters and discover where the light filters through, reflecting off of gold long buried beneath the surface; chalk it up to my moon in Scorpio. Sometimes, I forget that there is life above the surface of the water as well and the Geminis in my life remind me to play devil’s advocate to myself. 

 

What’s better than a cackling, cathartic laugh after a good cry? With everything that has transpired globally, locally, and communally over the last two weeks, I have made it a habit in the last few days to find something silly to laugh about. 

 

The other day I saw a clip from a reality dating show where a woman was wholeheartedly convinced that the moon was bigger than the earth, and proceeded to defend her point to her date as if he was a moron for not knowing so. Usually seeing this kind of ignorance on display—whether it be genuine, weaponized, or performative—is the kind of thing that boils my blood. ("This is not entertainment, this is a clear indication of social and systemic issues!") But, truthfully, when I saw it I burst out laughing. It was such a ridiculous statement to make, and furthermore to argue with full conviction. And her date clearly couldn’t figure out how to tell her he knew she was wrong. I laughed at the absurdity of being in conversation with someone and realizing you’re not even on the same planet. 

 

I’m sure this has happened to you, First name / my dearest. Right? You’re going about an interaction when someone says something or responds to a question with the most out of the box statement and you’re left wondering if you made a time-jump or there was a glitch in the matrix. The conversation comes to a standstill perhaps because you don’t know what to say next, or you realize that the other person’s frame of reference doesn’t overlap with yours. So often communication becomes reduced to a battle of wills; whoever is the loudest is "right”. We see this in personal interactions, on social media, in marketing and advertising especially. And we miss the point of communication like an arrow deliberately shot way off to the side of the target. 

 

Communication isn’t about talking, it’s about creating an understanding. And when we approach an interaction with this intent, we are often far more successful in achieving fulfillment than if we enter into an interaction with the determination to be “right”. I know we are smack dab in the middle of an intense holiday season for folks in the Western world, specifically the US which just had a big eating holiday where more often than not, old patterns and power dynamics are resurrected between family members. The stress of proximity and expectations can bring about painful interactions with those whom we cherish, or at the very least those with whom we would like to have healthy relationships. And quite often, I’m sure, the burden of advocating or  “being the bigger person” falls to you. I would like to offer that you are not responsible for anyone else’s growth or journey. You don’t always have to be the teacher, you are allowed to create a boundary that protects your heart and your integrity. Remember to give yourself a pause, and this full moon in Gemini is a great moment to do so.

 

 

Tomorrow morning’s Full Moon in Gemini will peak at 1:16am, but even though Gemini is usually a light and airy sign, she is not playing around. A full moon is halfway through the lunation, a time to check in on the progress that we’ve made or what has developed from our intentions set at the New Moon in Scorpio. Two weeks ago, we were given the opportunity to establish what is mine and what is yours, to make a go at the juggling act of holding many truths and conflicting levels of reality at the same time. Exercising our mental and emotional flexibility can be exhausting, and if you are feeling short on energy after these last two weeks, do not be ashamed to take a good couple days rest. Put the phone down, press pause on progress, and allow yourself to integrate what has transpired through reflection, dreamwork, somatic practice, or an old fashioned walk in the woods.

 

The Full Moon in Gemini will make a T-square opposite Mars and with Saturn at the apex. There are likely to be hard conversations and heavy realizations with regards to our time, career, security and stability. Mars opposite the moon creates an emotional tension that can drive action. Be mindful that if you do take action it’s not to escape tough emotions, but to express them either through a creative outlet such as working with your hands, or through honest conversation. Square Saturn, you might be tempted to hide behind a mask or distract yourself with tasks. If you saw clarity at the New Moon in Scorpio and have been waiting to take action with regards to a relationship, whether it’s personal, professional, or with your community/collective this full moon is a potent time to set your boundary, stake your claim and make your mark. That being said, it’s not the best time to sign contracts or legal documents with Mercury square Neptune throwing some veils over our eyes. But in personal interactions this aspect can be a need to integrate your spirituality with your message. 

 

Now may not be the time to start new projects or expect delightful surprises to fall into our laps, but it is certainly a time to polish our boundaries, and through our expression heal the places that have long needed to be spoken for. You may not feel as if you have anything to celebrate at this time, and that is okay. Not counting chickens before they hatch is wise, and sometimes full moon energy is best used for taking stock; taking a small break in action to regroup and reinvigorate ourselves for the longer journey ahead.

 

I challenge you to find something silly to laugh about. Even if it’s how much snot ended up on your shirt after a good cry, or the perfect timing of a car horn or a fart, life is a messy and should be treated with as much levity as gravity.

 

Just to be clear, I 100% made up this name, but I think it encapsulates what this full moon is about. Indigenous American cultures called the full moon in this season by names such as the Beaver Moon, for it was the time when beavers would retreat to their lodges; the Deer Rutting Moon, for the mating season of deer; the Scratching Moon, for being the time when bears would prepare and snuggle down into their dens. 

 

Tomorrow’s Full Moon in Gemini gives us the opportunity to make our beds for the winter season ahead of us, which includes our literal homes, our work and social schedules, and our community. Take some time to gather what you need to make this transition as harmonious as possible. There will be some inevitable discomfort, which is good! Just because things are frozen above ground does not mean that there are not stirrings beneath.

 

 

On a personal note, I will close this Moonsletter here—some current and past losses are hitting my heart harder than I anticipated.

 

As I said in a recent video on Instagram, this is a season when folks have the most trouble balancing emotions, obligations, and expectations. Please do not hesitate to reach out for help if you’re feeling overwhelmed. Your uniqueness is important, your contribution is important. Thank you for getting up today. Thank you for reading all the way to the bottom. Thank you for being here. ♥️