Consider creating a small business in your mind where you are paid in pleasure. This small business is your body and brain. The work you do is centered around getting “paid” in pleasurable experiences. What is the work you ask?
Noticing small joy. Becoming aware of sensations in your body. Setting and then keeping boundaries around your work and life. Advocating for your needs, and then advocating again because people forget. Creating plans with friends who make you laugh. The work isn’t particularly fun, but the paycheck is fantastic.
We often think pleasure (and sex) should just be easy because it feels good, but I can tell you this idea alone ruins more sex lives than almost any other. Do yourself a favor and consider yourself to be in the business of pleasure. Pleasure is the paycheck you receive for doing the uncomfortable, boring and sometimes downright difficult. But you’ve got this.
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