Hey First name / girlfriend,,
Did you catch the emotional rollercoaster of the Love is Blind finale? If you have never seen Love is Blind it is a reality dating series where singles attempt to find love and get engaged without ever seeing each other face-to-face. They communicate through isolated pods and only meet in person after getting engaged. The show follows their journey as they navigate relationships, meet each other's families, and ultimately decide whether to go through with the wedding.
In the
latest episode of Love is Blind, we witnessed a powerful moment that reminded us of the importance of self-love, knowing our worth, and recognizing red flags in relationships. As one woman bravely stood at the altar, ready to say "I do," she was met with the devastating reality of her partner saying "no." It was a heartbreaking moment that shed light on the complexities of love and the importance of prioritizing our own well-being.
Clay's hesitation and inability to say his vows at the altar serves as a powerful reminder that self-worth is the cornerstone of healthy relationships. AD, the broken hearted bride said through tears “Why am I never enough?”
Here's the thing girlfriend: When you know your worth, your confidence is impenetrable. This confidence attracts the kind of partner who deserves – someone who respects you, celebrates your individuality, and supports your journey. Remember, you're not just a romantic partner/wife/girlfriend; you're a brilliant, multifaceted woman with dreams and goals of your own. AD wanted to be married so badly, she wanted it to be “her turn.”
The key takeaway? Your relationship status does not define you and there is so much beauty in trusting the timing of your life. Self love is the foundation upon which your other relationships are built. You are a vibrant woman with a life full of purpose and passion. Don’t let anyone tell you or show you more than once that they don’t want to be with you.There were a number of signs that Clay was not ready for marriage, including generational trauma he carried with him to the altar. He said and did things that should have indicated to AD that he was not the man for her but unfortunately like AD, sometimes you zone in too much on the destination so that you miss the beauty of the journey. Granted, the point of the show is to get married quickly–Clay’s actions showed his true intentions. It’s okay to desire a relationship and/or marriage but I’m a firm believer that who you choose to partner with can have a profound impact on your life. Especially in this day and age where postpartum affects many, you want to be sure you are partnered with someone who can support you through each and every stage of your life. I was especially shocked when Clay kept asking about AD’s body and what it would look like after having children. She’s such a beautiful woman with so much more to offer than her physical appearance.
What happens when you learn that it’s not your turn yet? Shift your focus and trust that the desires of your heart will be fulfilled. We are enough, just as we are, and our value does not diminish based on someone else's perception of us. Your worth isn’t determined by your waist size, bank account, or the brands you wear. It’s about who you are at your core. Like I said in this email sent a few weeks ago, it’s IN you, not ON you.
So,
First name / girlfriend,, remember who you are, utilize those self-care practices we talked about in
this email, and refocus if you need to. Remember, the right relationship will empower you, not diminish you. You deserve a love story that celebrates your strength, your independence, and makes you feel like the queen you truly are.
