Happy Pride Month! Whether you’re a long-time advocate, a forever LGBTQAI+ person, or just beginning to explore your truer self, welcome. I see you. I love you. 

 

New ones: Anyone who tries to litmus test your identity is a jerk (send them to me for a talking to)! Queerness isn't defined by a historical list of experiences, or how “out” you are…but by the song in your heart. Your unique timeline is valid: I’m so inspired by those who come into queerness, or out to others, later in life: what a brave + magical testament to living large + free + true.

 

Quiet ones: Social change movements need all kinds, including those who aren't “out”: you're much more able to have the conversations in rooms where the rest of us are excluded. I feel goosebumps thinking about all of your efforts behind the scenes. “Closeted" folks have always been crucial for advancing our rights and dignity. Thank you.

 

Longtimers: Thank (g_d) for your visibility.  I still weep with relief when someone comes out in a super-straight setting (like Michelle MiJung Kim at the recent SHRM conference where we were both speaking). Representation, in this backlash era of so many laws against our community, makes me feel seen, okay, right, and wildly alive. Not a day goes by that I don’t channel Audre Lorde, Chani, Tan France, Alok...and hundreds of “out” others to help me feel my best.

 

Allies: When someone in your life comes out, say a heartfelt “thank you for sharing!” (And just Google any questions to not plague them in their big, vulnerable moment). Your role is invaluable— support queer/trans entrepreneurs and artists all year long, financially back our causes, and advocate for LGBTQAI+ friendly workplaces and worlds. Remember, allyship isn't just about the fun stuff like drag brunch and Pride parades; it's about consistent, meaningful support. Especially when we're not in the room.

 

In solidarity,

Femily

 

P.S. Bisexuals make up 3/5 of the LGBTQAI+ community, so stop assuming all us ladies with straight husbands are straight.