If you’re here reading this today, you’re a part of history in the making.

 

This is the first of a new tradition of Friday emails that I’m going to be sending to give you the exclusive DL (down low) on what I’ve learned each week.

 

Whether that’s in my own life, in working with my clients or in my own study…

 

The Friday emails are designed to support you in creating your DL (dream life) and are solely for those who are a part of my DL (desires list). 

 

(Don’t you love how all of those DL’s worked out! I promise to never put you through that again. 😂)

 

My hope is that you’ll look forward to reading these emails each week. 

 

I promise to provide value and insight that makes you actually want to open up and look forward to Fridays.

 

I plan on covering topics like your desires, mindset shifts, overcoming limiting beliefs, using Universal laws to create more success, money and abundance…

 

And the everyday stuff that we all need like resilience, how to be happy, how to navigate relationships, being a mom, how I’m improving my health, how to balance business + personal etc.

 

 

So now that I’ve really built this up, here it goes…

 

 

First, I need to apologize to you.

 

I didn’t intend to be out of your inbox for so long.

 

But I found myself needing to focus on me and all of the big shifts in my life and business.

 

Before we get to the business stuff (a topic for another day) as you may know, we recently moved back to my hometown in Ohio.

 

(Something I never thought I’d do.)

 

I’ve been away for 15 years…

 

In London, then LA, then Santa Barbara and then Austin, Texas.

 

 

At that time, I was not happy here.

 

I couldn’t imagine staying.

 

So needless to say, it was not an easy decision to come back.

 

In fact, in some ways, I really felt like I was going backwards.

 

And the decision was really hard.

 

I questioned myself.

 

I didn’t really know what to expect.

 

I was a completely different person now so what would it feel like to live here?

 

How would it be to see my parents all the time instead of just a few times per year?

 

James and I went around and around about it. For like 6 months.

 

But we didn’t know where else we wanted to live.

 

We knew Austin wasn’t our forever place. We didn’t want to go back to California or London.

 

We couldn’t explore everywhere in America.

 

So ultimately, we decided that this was the best thing for our family for this chapter.

 

 

My daughter has support like never before from my parents and being around her cousins.

 

We live in a beautiful environment on a golf course where I actually want to go outside because it’s so lush and green.

 

I’ve been going to my favorite hot yoga class again (I’ll be talking about that next week…)

 

Everything is so easy here.

 

 

And I’m so glad we made this decision.

 

And that’s what I wanted to talk about today, First name / friend.

So today, I’m walking you through three ways to do that.

 

 

In my experience, clarity it’s as much about what you don’t want as what you do want…

 

Let me give you a few examples…

 

When we lived in Austin, we had a dream house, but it was 30 minutes outside of the city.

 

So 30 minutes to our favorite restaurants, downtown where all the action was, Target…

 

30 minutes to our friends and anyone who visited Austin (because they would end up staying downtown).

 

And it was an up-in-coming area in Texas. (Somehow made it into Vogue but I’m not really sure how) so it was lacking in a lot of things.

 

Anyway, because it was 30 minutes to everything, we ended up in the house all the time. It was great in some respects because it was a beautiful 4500 square foot house and we had a new baby, but it’s not what I wanted for this new season of life.

 

I don’t want to have to drive 30 minutes to WholeFoods.

 

To have to cook every evening because there aren’t any good restaurants on UberEats because we’re too far out.

 

To miss my favorite yoga class because it’s too far away.

 

You get the idea?

 

Another example, the weather. 

 

The past few years in Austin were four months of 100+ degrees. 

 

I don’t want to be stuck inside and unable to do anything between 8am-8pm…especially with a toddler.

 

Yes, you can say that Ohio has winter so it will be the same thing then, but I much prefer the cold over the heat. 

 

That’s just me. (And maybe I’m impacted by the weather more than the normal person.) 

 

 

But I don’t want that limitation.

 

And the truth is, although we had such amazing friends in Austin (and it’s the perfect place for many people I know!), the bad started to outweigh the good. 

 

 

(Maybe you're in that place today.)

 

This is just one example of my thought process and how we went about making this decision. 

 

And on the flip side…

 

You can, of course, look at what you do what.

 

 

We knew we wanted my daughter to have quality time with my parents and her cousins. 

 

(Charlotte has been taking swimming lessons and music classes with her cousins each week. It’s so sweet.)

 

We wanted to be supported by family.

 

We wanted to live somewhere with four seasons.

 

 

We wanted to live somewhere that was thriving and had a lot going on for entrepreneurs.

 

We started to look at the everyday life that we wanted, not just the big things…

 

Maybe that’s a good place for you to start, First name / friend.

 

 

Sidebar: I had a coach talk to me once about actors.

 

He reminded me that actors spend the majority of their time preparing to be on stage or in the movie. 

 

The actual showing up and doing the big thing isn’t how they are spending most of their days.

 

Sometimes we think about the big things…

 

The trip we want to take

The day we get our dream car

Writing the book

Speaking on the stage

The conference we get to attend

 

That’s the part we share with the world that feels most exciting.

 

But that’s not how we spend our days.

 

 

Those little moments add up.

 

Something to think about.

 

And then for the final step…

 

Here’s one more that I’ve learned…

 

 

For example, we want Charlotte to know her UK side of the family. And to experience more than just the United States. 

 

And we want to keep traveling.

 

I had a reading with my favorite spiritual guide the other day, and she told me I’m always meant to be an adventurer.

 

I asked her what that would mean for Charlotte.

 

So we’re spending most of October in the UK. And then who knows what 2025 holds.

 

And we’re considering homeschooling her and what that would look like.

 

So, First name / friend, take a look at what you don't want and what you do want this weekend. Make a list. 

 

And answer the following questions…

And then play the whole tape through.

 

 

I always come back to Marie Forleo’s “clarity comes from engagement, not from thinking about it".

 

So go all in. Test something out. But don’t be afraid to pivot or make a change if it ends up only being right for a season. (Or not right at all.)

 

Speak soon,

 

Emily

 

P.S. If you enjoyed this email, I'd love to hear your thoughts. Hit reply and let me know if you liked it / anything stood out / if you've ever been at a crossroads like this. If this was your first newsletter and you made it all the way through, I'd love to hear that, too.