Today, I want to talk about a client journey into self acceptance- something which is integral to the journey of self love First name / friend…..
Why am I sharing this? Because often, we find ‘ourselves’ when we have a mirrored experienced from another- when someones stories resonates on a deep level that can help us to feel understood and for us to feel like our ‘stuff’ matters, that things can change and also that you're not alone. A client approached me 6 months ago due to anxiety that was really impacting her life- and her relationships…she had tried online therapy before, and was really desperate for change.
The biggest cause for her anxiety was self doubt- doubting she was good enough, struggling to make decisions, constant worry what people thought of her and meant she had constant anxiety band worried about everything and everyone.
We get anxious through uncertainty- and we feel unsure of ourselves, we will carry this through into EVERYTHING we do…
In our session 2 weeks ago, she spoke to me about a list she had typed into her notes app (I highly recommend this for self reflection). It's a list that appears so simple yet is so profound and life changing) and she has given me full permission to share.
- Be able to watch TV and concentrate (not overthinking)
- Being able to say if something annoys me (boundaries)
- Saying no to something I don't want to do or eat (boundaries)
- Sleeping through the night (physical health)
- I can concentrate at work
- Not have to call or ask friends for advice on what's ‘normal’ constantly (self trust)
- Being okay or better with friendships and boundaries
- Not looking at every worst case scenario
- Handing stress better
- Better levels/ able to handle anxiety
WOW.
The opposite of all of this was happening every day and she was exhausted.
This is what I can help with, and and it's important to mention that not every client is the same; it's not all about wins or change….sometimes people just need safe space to be heard… and this is what I am here for and what I am HERE for.
My client also mentioned what her partner had told her, which has a lovely sentiment:
