How to feel sexy and confident in your own skin
Hey First name / you! 

Have you ever felt like you hold yourself back from fully embracing your sexuality, like there’s an invisible barrier between you and the confident, sensual Goddess inside you? 
 
What if I told you that the relationship with your mother or female caregiver could be at the root of so many of your intimate and relational struggles?
 
Many women grapple with low libido and feelings of inadequacy, never realising that the source possibly in the unresolved issues with their mothers. 
 
This is known as the "Mother Wound" or "Heart Wound"—a deep-seated sense of unworthiness and the belief “I'm not good enough”
 
Very early on in life many of us learn to suppress our true selves to be loved and accepted. 
 
This wound can subtly shape how we view our bodies, our desires, and our sexual self-worth, leaving us disconnected from our authentic sexual power
. and looping in a self sacrificing behaviours. 
 
First name / you let's look at 3 examples of how a mother wound could be showing up for you:  
 
the mother wound in love, sex and relationships 
1. Shame and Guilt Around Sex
How did your mother feel about sex? was it shameful, sinful, an obligation? was she 'too' open? shut down? was sex purely for procreation?
 
If your mother often said or implied, “Good girls don’t think about sex,” or “sex is for your husband” or dismissed your questions about sexuality with discomfort or disdain, you would have learnt that your sexual desires are bad or inappropriate. 
 
This can lead to a deep sense of guilt and shame whenever you feel sexual attraction. This guilt later shows up sexual shut down, feeling numb during intimate moments, pain during sex or even fantasising as a way to escape from feeling shame or guilt. 
 
You may choose fast, hard, intense quickies over slow, sensual, oceanic hours and hours of pleasure 
the mother wound in love, sex and relationships 
2. Body Image 
Did your mother had a complicated or negative relationship with her own body? —perhaps she was overly critical of her appearance, struggled with self-acceptance, or often spoke negatively about her looks?
 
 My mother criticised her weight, constantly dieting & calling herself “fat” or “ugly” or comparing herself to others. 
 
You may have your own version of this- Seeing this as a child, you learned to view your own body through a similarly harsh lens, feeling that you must also be flawed or unattractive if you don’t meet certain standards. 
 
This can make it difficult to feel confident in your own skin, especially in sexual situations where you might be overly self-conscious about your body, rather than focusing on your pleasure. 
This self-consciousness can lead to picking apart your body, obsessing over perceived flaws, and feeling uncomfortable in intimate moments. 
 
When it comes to sex, you might find yourself needing everything to be “perfect”—the mood, lighting, music, sheets, and temperature—before you can relax and enjoy yourself. But because perfection is impossible, this only leads to more anxiety and beating yourself up when sex isn't great. 
the mother wound in love, sex and relationships 
3. Conditional Love  
Did your mother overly praised you when you achieved certain things, like good grades or good behaviour, but was distant or critical when you didn’t?
 
 Then, like me you might have learned to equate love with performance. 
 
This can create a belief that being loved comes with a lot of rules and expectations. You know what your partners needs are in sex, but don't know or seem have any of your own.
 
 This can look like not knowing or voicing your desires. The focus is external. Your boundaries are porous which leads to over riding your own bodies signals, putting pressure on your body to be ‘turned on’ in 5 mins flat and when that doesn't happen you blame yourself and internalise your frustration
 which can feel being a fraud or failure in the bedroom.  
 
But here’s the thing: Sexual confidence and self-worth can be cultivated. 
 
They come from exploring different ways of generating these feelings inside yourself...
 
By finding out what feels sexy inside your body, in the ways you move your body, and in how you adorn your body (or don’t!).
 
The key is that your sexiness is authentic to YOU.
 
In my Breaking the Good Girl Spell training, I’ll guide you through the process of recognising and identify these wounds so you can reclaim your sexual self-worth and embrace your desires.
 
If you missed the live sessions, the replays are now available for FREE until Sept 7-  after that you can purchase the training for $111.
 
 
please know there is nothing wrong with you 
 a lot of us are carrying super harmful, outdated narratives about what ‘sexy’ is...
 
-Our culture and media directly imprint our minds with what ‘sexy’ is supposed to be.
 
-We’re conditioned to compare ourselves to unrealistic images of what it means to be sexy...

-Our bodies and our sexuality get criticised and judged over and over again when we don’t live up to those standards.
 
But
  once you let go of expectations and instead take the time to find out what feels sexy to you...
 
You become sexually confident in your own skin, and nobody can take that away from you.
 
Of course, your version of sexy can include elements of mainstream society’s version of sexy. But as long as you’re putting on a fake persona and allowing comparison to make you feel bad...
 
You’re not going to find the sexy confidence you desire.
 
So, how do you build your sexual confidence and find out what feels sexy and pleasurable to you?
 
I’ll walk you through this process in my free Breaking the Good Girl Spell training.
 
You’ll build up your confidence, discover what holds you back from feeling sexy and pleasurable in your own body, and learn new ways to access your authentic sexuality.
 
All of the pleasure and sexiness you’ve been wanting to feel is sitting right there inside your own body...
 
You just need to access and nurture it.
 
So if you want to transform your inner good girl into a Goddess...
 
 
Each training has a video and guided practices and tools that will inspire and uplift you.
 
Feeling sexy and confident in your skin is totally yours to claim!
 
I can’t wait for you to dive into this epic training with me! 
 
Until next week- lots of love 
 
Manjit 
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