đ Hi First name / friend,
Iâm 9 days away from my show and just sent my photos off to the printer â but completing
Hands of Trinidad is part of my 1.5 year goal to become a public artist, which ultimately drives me toward my core value: IMPACT
If you grabbed last weekâs template, the values exercise, you should now have a short list of values youâve defined for yourself, like I have.
Now, youâre ready for the next step in building The OS â the goal setter.
But let's be real, this is deep work, even when it's simplified into a Notion template.
So, letâs dive into this weekâs topic:
What If You Donât Know What You Want?
When the muscle of desire is underdeveloped or atrophied, we need to strengthen another muscle to compensate. Just like how a blind person might use touch to navigate, we can use what we donât want to guide us toward what we do.
When I asked myself, âWhat are your values?â, I froze. The overwhelm of choice felt paralyzing, and accessing my own desires became triggering. This is asking the muscle of desire.
But when I flipped the question to, âWhat are not your values?â, everything shifted. Suddenly, I recognized a sense of clarity and confidence in my choices. This is asking the muscle of discernment.
If you donât know what it is,
start with what itâs not.
This concept is actually the reason why my brand is called Not Not (more on this in next monthâs podcast, stay tuned đ).
Itâs about navigating through contradictions, peeling back layers, and figuring out who you are by first figuring out what youâre not.
Iâm still unsure if Iâm meant to be an artist, but I know Iâm not not an artist either. This approach allows me to explore who Iâm becoming without the rigidity of committing to a singular identity.
Whatâs Next?
The next step is the goal setter.
The goal setter helps you take your list of values and chisel away at whatâs not serving you. Itâs not about creating something from scratch â itâs about revealing whatâs already there by eliminating the noise.
Itâs time to set your goals in alignment with your values.
âïžCatch you on the flip side, Daryl Oh
