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As a coach and consultant, I hold a few unpopular opinions.
One of them is about the catchy term of “Imposter Syndrome.” I'm not a fan of it (I know - gasp). Here is why…
When Imposter Syndrome (IS) become a mainstream concept, nearly everyone jumped on the IS bandwagon.
My take? Humans felt so validated. We finally had shared language (especially in the workplace) to acknowledge our insecurities.
The problem? IS became a "catch all" term for feeling not good enough. It prevented us from naming our unique differences and lived experiences.
As a result, we weren't getting to the root of our individual challenges or developing specific enough goals to make healthy changes in our lives. The National Library of Medicine defines Imposter Syndrome (IS) as a behavioral health phenomenon described as self-doubt of intellect, skills, or accomplishments among high-achieving individuals (Source). Be honest. How true is that definition for you? Do you have an internalized fear of being exposed as a fraud?
Maybe IS is a real thing for you, and that's okay (I'll take your word for it).
But if it doesn't feel like a full body YES, then what actually IS it for you?
For instance, maybe you don't have IS but you DO have a fear of failure. You grew up in a home where achievement and perfection were highly valued, and you couldn't make mistakes.
Maybe you don't have IS but you DO worry that your opinions don't matter. You grew up in a home where you were taught to stay quiet while certain voices dominated the room.
Maybe you don't have IS but you DO worry that you aren't "important enough." You grew up in a home where you were taught to put the needs of others before your own.
. . .
At the end of the day, we all have insecurities and wonder whether or not we're good enough. It's true for me, and every person I've worked with.
The real work begins when we peel back the layers and get curious about what specifically is keeping us stuck, and where that stuck point originated.
From there, we can try on new beliefs, gain confidence in our abilities, and fully step into our potential.
Not sure if Imposter Syndrome feels relevant to you? Take this handy quiz to reflect further. Let me know what you think.