Hey First name / friend,
Hi, thanks for spending a few moments with me to level up your boundary-setting skills.
Continuing on from last week, today we’re diving into the different types of boundaries and how to identify where they align with your personal values. |
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Quick recap - boundaries are the invisible lines that protect our emotional, physical, sexual, and mental well-being. They help us feel safe, maintain control, and foster healthy relationships.
Here’s a quick overview of the key boundary types: - Physical Boundaries: Personal space and body autonomy.
- Sexual Boundaries: Intimacy, touch, and sexual activity.
- Mental/Intellectual Boundaries: Beliefs, thoughts, and ideas.
- Emotional Boundaries: Protecting feelings and personal information.
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How to Identify Your Boundaries
If you’re unsure about your boundaries, a good starting point is exploring your personal values. Ask yourself: - What matters to me?
- Why does this matter?
- What deeper value does this reflect?
You might need to ask "why" a few times to uncover the root value, particularly if you haven't explored them in a formal capacity before, and if that's the case, be kind and gentle with yourself as you explore. |
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Example: - What matters to me? I want a table in the kitchen.
- Why does this matter? I want everyone at the table for meals.
- Why do I want everyone at the table for meals? I enjoy when we share meals and talk about our day.
- Why is that important to me? I value family connection.
By digging deeper, we identified a personal value around family connection and a boundary around shared meals. Common values might include respect, honesty, peace, or independence. |
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Your Turn
Take a few moments to reflect: - Use the guide above to identify your top 3 values.
- Can you recall past situations where these values were disrespected?
- How could a boundary protect them moving forward?
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Knowing your values gives you confidence in decision-making and helps you create healthy relationships where both “yes” and “no” are respected. |
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Thanks for digging a little deeper here today. Join me next week where we will be ‘hitting play’ on implementing respectful boundaries. |
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Wishing you peace and great boundaries in the week ahead. X Marisa |
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Sunshine Coast, Queensland 4560, Australia |
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