If there’s ever a time to strengthen our boundaries, it’s during holiday gatherings. Think about moments like Uncle Bob at Christmas lunch asking, “When are you going to get back on the old dating horse?” or starting lines with “Back in my day…”

 

 

Respectful boundaries help us foster relationships where everyone feels valued. Over the past few weeks, we’ve explored why boundaries matter, how to identify them through personal values, and ways to define them. 

 

Today, it’s all about hitting ‘play.'

 

 

Here’s a quick guide to spotting tricky moments, signal our boundaries while choosing respectful tactics to redirect conversations:

 

 

Scenario: Uncle Bob keeps making comments about your personal life.
Tactic: Redirect the conversation while maintaining a polite tone.
Response: "I’d rather not talk about that right now, but tell me more about how your year has been!"

 

Scenario: A party host pressures you to drink when you’ve already declined.
Tactic: Set a firm, kind limit without hostility.
Response: "Thanks, but I’ve already decided not to drink tonight. I appreciate the offer!"

 

Scenario: A relative teases you about a sensitive topic.
Tactic: Use humor to lighten the moment while signaling that the topic is off-limits.
Response: "You’re as curious as Santa this year! Let’s save the big questions for New Year’s resolutions!"

 

 

Scenario: Uncle Bob (again!) makes mildly offensive jokes.
Tactic: Calmly call out the behavior without escalating tension.
Response: "I know you didn’t mean harm, but that joke makes me uncomfortable. Let’s keep it light and fun today."

 

Scenario: A colleague gossips or shares negative opinions.
Tactic: Excuse yourself gracefully to avoid unnecessary conflict.
Response: "I’m going to check on the snack table. Be back in a bit!"

 

Scenario: You anticipate unsolicited advice.
Tactic: Set boundaries in advance to manage expectations.
Response: "I know you love giving advice, but I’d appreciate it if we could enjoy the day without digging into serious topics."

 

 

 

 

Hopefully you are able to use the steps and examples we have covered over the past few weeks to review, reflect and implement these important markers of personal safety. I look forward to joining you next week.

 

 

Change isn’t always easy. If you’d like help setting boundaries or making other life improvements, contact Marisa for an appointment.

 

 

Wishing you an extraordinary week ahead,

 

 

X Marisa