But once upon a time I turned really great men into frogs. I knew very little about being a woman and I even less about men. 

 

My experience of men, how I talked to them, reacted to them, think about them was based in misunderstandings. 

 

 

I met my ex husband in the summer of 2001. 

 

On our first, secret meet-up, over a pot of english breakfast, I shared my passions and dreams of travel, adventure and some day running a business. 

 

He gifted me a beautiful diamond and topaz necklace, on a white gold chain. (Topaz is my birthstone… talk about attention to detail) 

 

He shared his dream with clarity and intention ….  “I’d like to make you happy”

 

I was unimpressed. I felt the necklace was ‘over the top’ and I dismissed his dream because it lacked imagination. 

 

I had decided that my  goals, aspiration and desire to live a BIG life was impressive. 

 

In a short time I decided he was a ‘wet lettuce’ and soon after we were married he began to pull away. 

 

I remember thinking he was affectionate, attentive, romantic, interested and passionate, only to get me to marry him. 

 

It took me over a decade to awaken to the truth: I'd turned him into a frog. 

 

Subtle digs, comparing, micromanaging, complaining and withdrawing my affection turned this king into a frog.

 

All because he didn’t talk like me, act like me, dream like me. 

 

 He was different and I expected him to be just like me. 

 

Many of us go into partnerships with people that bring something different to the table and then after a while we expect them to be like us. 

 

And when they are not like us- it creates conflict. 

 

What if men are responding to women? How they behave is reflecting how you relate to them? How they treat you is a mirror of how you see them? 

 

What if we changed how we relate to ourselves? men? each other? what if expect there to be differences? 

 

So my dear, want to have a little fun with a quiz? 

 

Do you turn kings into frogs? or a Queen who turns frogs into kings?? 

 

If you answer “Yes” to any of the following questions, you may be a turning men into frogs. Please know it is not your fault! 

 

Turning men into frogs comes from how we all have been taught to relate to men. 

 

It’s based in misunderstandings and miscommunication. 

The most important thing I want to leave you with is this: we’ve begun a two-way conversation. 

 

As I offer you questions, tools and my personal journey,  I ask in turn that you share your story with me, as well as any thoughts or ideas on what you’d like to see and hear about in my future emailings. 

 

You can open the conversation by clicking reply and sharing your journey about men and relating and if you are turning kings into frogs and you'd like to change this pattern I have 2 spots open in Jan for 1:1 coaching and mentoring.