Blessings with all your beginnings this year 2025
 
— my prayers join yours for our collective kindness with each other
 
I Want …
 
I Want …'Aleema za duka duka'
(The Swahili expression for the dot dot dot of our imaginations)
The ‘I Want’ Game - Something to play with for welcoming in 2025!
 
When two people play this game, it can help us run a bath that is just the right temperature for both of us to bathe in!
 
‘Playing the ‘I Want game’ can support illuminating our unthought knowns!
 
We learn that we can both express our wants and desires and this does not mean we are requesting anything from the other ’ 
 
‘I Want’ is a an announcement! Like a flower's petals opening or a bird singing.
 
It's a different game to 
 
‘May I …?’
OR
‘Will you …?’
 
Guidance …
Take it in turns to announce three wants each turn with your partner simply witnessing with radical acceptance.
 
… a little more relational and erotic could be announcing what you want to do to the other. Again your partner witnessess with you in the aleema za duka duka realms of your imaginations.
 
… then you might want to transform these ‘wants’ into requests having already bathed together in your imaginations.
 
 
Just the right temperature for both of us!
 
 ‘I Want’ Body Poems are a meditation and a potential daily practice.
 
When we begin each sentence with 
‘I want …’
 
memory channels open inside of us in response to this identification
 
Aspects of ourselves that have not had a look in might emerge seeking recognition
 
This can be surprising  and not surprising at the same time.
 
 Like water finds its way to the lowest point of the ocean, our wants will eventually bring us to our knees in prayer for acknowledgement.
 
This is self responsibility where we enable ourselves to take care of our wants -  those aspects of us that we are hoping people who love us might be attuned to and understand and take care of for us. 
 
Naturally, we want to take care of each others needs but it makes it a lot easier if we if we are able to represent ourselves.
 
Writing an ‘I want’ list every so often can help us understand whats on the surface and whats under the surface. 
 
What's under the surface gets expressed in under the surface ways and can become a parallel relationship to the explicit co created realities we are sharing.
 
In the ‘Aleema za duka duka' of our imaginations the implicit potentially emerges into something explicit. There is then the possibility of  unthought knowns being noticed, acknowledged and valued in shared reality.
 
 
 
 
The  ‘I Want…’ game and ‘I want ..’ Body Poems first emerged around twenty years ago from my private practice facilitating intimacy training as a way of setting intentions and co-creating clear relationship agreements at the beginning of a session. 
 
Apply this to the beginnings of everything we do and we come closer into congruence with ourselves and each other.
 
… and we may feel vulnerable being true.
 
- Katie Sarra
 
 
Come as you are … however, you are … wherever you are
 
 
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Come as you are … however you are … where ever you are 
The more you are you, the more I have permission to be me
The theme of this meeting is our collective and individual ‘I want …’
 
 
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