Dear First name / Friend,
If you're dating for a relationship, you need to think beyond just "finding your person." There are three parts to a successful relationship:
đź’ˇ You + Me + Us = Your Relationship Equation
A lot of people get stuck just searching for the right person—but that’s only part of the equation. To build something real, you need to consider:
1️. Who are you actually looking for?
- Go beyond the laundry list of traits (tall, successful, funny) and focus on the deeper stuff:
✔️ Do their values and morals align with yours?
✔️ How do they communicate and show up in relationships?
✔️ Do you actually like who you are around them?
2️. How do you want to be seen and loved?
- This is about your role in the relationship. Ask yourself:
✔️ Do you want an equal partnership or a more traditional dynamic?
✔️ Do you need independence (hello, girls’ trips) or prefer to be together as much as possible?
✔️ What kind of love and support do you want and need?
3️. What kind of relationship do you actually want?
- Be clear and honest—with yourself and the people you’re dating.
✔️ Casual or serious?
✔️ Friends with benefits or long-term commitment?
✔️ No pressure? Or dating with marriage in mind?
There’s are right or wrong answers, only the answers that are right for you! Getting clear on all three parts will transform the way you date for the better. Instead of wondering if someone likes you, you’ll start asking: Do they fit into the life and relationship I actually want?
