"The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have." —Jane Travis
Take a moment to reflect on the quote above from Jane Travis. How you speak to yourself, how you honor your needs, and how you show yourself love and kindness directly shape the relationships in your life. If self-doubt, neglect, or criticism are present within, they will inevitably ripple into your interactions with others. But when you cultivate self-compassion, inner peace, and self-worth, you naturally create deeper, more fulfilling connections.
A Personal Reflection on Self-Love
When Leslie and I went through two years of the Magdalene Rose Priestess Training, self-love and deep inner exploration were at the heart of our journey. Walking through the Sabbats, attuning to the seasonal changes, and focusing inward made such a profound impact on both of us. It was a time of transformation, peeling back layers, and stepping into a more empowered version of ourselves.
Beyond my Life Coaching certification back in 2002, this had to have been one of the most rewarding and life-changing programs I’ve ever participated in. One of the affirmations our teacher gave us still echoes in my heart:
"I am self-love. I am self-worth. I am self-belief."
These words became a mantra—a reminder that the relationship we cultivate with ourselves is the most important one we will ever have. Without self-love, we can’t fully open our hearts to deep, meaningful relationships with others.
Why This Matters
Self-Love Sets the Standard – The way we treat ourselves teaches others how to treat us. If we don’t prioritize our well-being, we unconsciously signal to others that it’s okay to do the same.
Inner Peace Reflects Outward – When we cultivate self-acceptance, we bring more harmony and understanding into our relationships.
Authenticity Attracts Alignment – The more we embrace our true selves, the more we attract relationships that reflect that authenticity and support our growth.
Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship with Yourself:
Practice Self-Compassion – Speak to yourself as you would a dear friend. Notice when self-judgment arises and replace it with kindness.
Honor Your Needs & Boundaries – Pay attention to what drains or nourishes your energy. Say “yes” to yourself more often.
Spend Time Alone Mindfully – Journaling, meditating, or simply sitting with your own thoughts helps deepen your self-awareness.
Celebrate Your Strengths & Growth – Recognize your progress, even in small ways. Self-appreciation fosters confidence and joy.
Practice:
A Self-Love Meditation & Affirmation Ritual
This simple but powerful meditation can help you deepen your relationship with yourself.
The "I Am Self-Love" Meditation
Find a Quiet Space – Sit or lie down in a comfortable position. Close your eyes and take a deep breath in, holding for a moment before exhaling fully.
Connect to Your Heart – Place both hands over your heart. Feel the warmth of your touch and the steady rhythm of your heartbeat.
Breathe in Love – With each inhale, visualize a soft golden light filling your heart space. With each exhale, release any tension or self-judgment.
Affirmations – Repeat the words: I am self-love. I am self-worth. I am self-belief. Let these words sink into your being, absorbing their energy.
Envision Your Highest Self – See yourself standing tall, radiant, and whole. Feel the love and acceptance you hold for yourself.
Close with Gratitude – Thank yourself for showing up, for prioritizing your inner relationship, and for choosing love.
Reflection Prompt:
What is one way you can strengthen your relationship with yourself today? How might this shift the relationships in your life?
By nurturing self-love, we create a ripple effect—our energy shifts, our relationships transform, and we begin attracting people and experiences that align with the highest version of ourselves.
May you walk into this week with love, worth, and unwavering belief in yourself.
Have You Heard the News?
Introducing Blossoming into Light Monthly
Something new is blossoming! Starting April 1st, we’re launching Blossoming into Light Monthly—a special 30-minute talk and meditation designed to bring clarity, inspiration, and spiritual alignment for the month ahead.
Each month, we’ll explore a meaningful theme, share insights, and guide you through a meditation to help you step into the energy of the moment with purpose and presence.
Stay tuned for all the details—this is something you won’t want to miss!
Radiate Self-Love & Joy!
Sue & Leslie
We work virtually Budd Lake, New Jersey 07828, United States
