I used the Love Languages quiz like it was science.I cringe a little now thinking about how many clients I sent that thing to. It's catchy and accessible, much like a Harry Potter house quiz. But it's not data-backed or rooted in actual research; parts of it are very problematic. These days, I'll still talk about how people show affection, but I bring the science.
I was nervous to work with men. I assumed it would be uncomfortable and unsafe. What I didn't expect? That I'd end up loving it. So many men I've worked with have been thoughtful, kind, open-hearted, and deeply motivated to grow. They've taught me a lot about what's possible when vulnerability meets education.
I didn't call out systems of oppression soon enough. I tiptoed around patriarchy, white supremacy, and religious trauma in the beginning, worried about backlash. Now I know: we can't talk about pleasure, relationships, or healing without talking about power. I wish I would've gone harder, sooner.
Here's to evolution, mistakes, and unlearning in public.
Celeste
Celeste Holbrook 3000 S Hulen Street Suite 124-731 Fort Worth, TX 76109, USA
