Hi First name / friend, It’s nice to spend a few moments with you today. I hope you found benefit from the reflection exercise last week. If you didn’t have time to accomplish that last week, here is the link to the rather helpful 6 Minute Moments guided hypnosis on YouTube and Spotify. It’s a less than 10-minute commitment that might just be the best investment of your time this week. |
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Were you able to get a sense of your deep-down honest answers to the posed questions? - I must always do well to be approved of by others.
- Everyone should treat me kindly and fairly at all times.
- Life is supposed to be easy and convenient.
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You might find value in this little tool that helps you ‘hold space’ for honest and open reflection: |
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Sit in a quiet space where you won’t be disturbed for a few moments. - Close your eyes or allow them to defocus and become aware of your breathing.
- Now imagine you are constructing a sturdy perspex/clear box inside of your chest, four sides, a bottom, and a lid on top.
- Anything that goes into this box is protected, and all you can do is observe.
- Place in there what comes up when you experience rejection from others (the counter to approval).
- Close the lid.
- Move the box out of your chest and have it float out in front of you.
- Just observe that experience.
- Notice how you can see it from many angles out there.
- Breathe and send compassion into the box.
- Imagine it fading and disappearing.
- Focus on your breath and become present behind the eyes.
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Albert Ellis, the REBT (Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy) creator, believed that a yes answer to these questions implied a rigid view of the world and would cause significant emotional distress. As humans, we have the right to experience the full spectrum of these emotions should we choose. |
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There are also times when we might choose to experience something else instead. Join me next week where we explore “What if I’m not OK with myself?” and what we can do about it. |
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Wishing you an introspective week ahead, |
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Nambour
Sunshine Coast, Queensland 4560, Australia |
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