I saw a post yesterday that was something like “how to enjoy your cozy winter this year…” or some shit like that from a very very popular podcast creator that focuses on business, growth and innovation.
I thought, oh cute, let’s see what they are saying…
Apparently “enjoying” your cozy winter is centered around perfecting your skin care routine, finishing 3 different personal development books and “just saying the thing” in your content.
And look, I get it.
It is a podcast that highlights and centers entrepreneurship and personal/professional growth but what the actual fuck?
80% of the list was rooted in personal growth and becoming “better” - this is how we will enjoy our winter?
In that moment, I was 2 glasses of wine in and was immediately so fucking annoyed by this “cozy winter checklist”…
But then I woke up today and the frustration lingered.
I have committed my professional life to personal and professional development.
I am committed to helping women feel safer in their expertise, expand as leaders and create and build big fuck off Visions.
I am kinda a personal development and growth girly, right?
But I just have to say I’m exhausted First name / babe.
I’m so tired of the ‘always be growing’ narrative, content and way of approaching life.
The point of your life is not to keep growing, it isn’t to be an entrepreneur and it isn’t to be “the best version of yourself…” whatever that even means.
The point of your life, IMO, is to enjoy yourself wildly.
To be loved, to be seen, to have fun, to be in awe of beautiful things, to love, to be in relation, to like yourself.
And I understand, deeply, that healing and personal development has a role to play even in that…
But First name / friends, personal development and entrepreneurship has become a religion.
And as someone who at one point in my life was deeply and very unhealthfully religious and dogmatic about how the world works - I know religion when I see it. (Also have I mentioned I have a minor degree in Theology hahahaha more on that another time)
And look…growing, perfecting your skin care and becoming ‘healed’ is fucking cool and I too am on that journey but I find we have reached a point where we are in a constant deficit.
Where we are never good enough, never healed enough, never self awareness enough, never fucking good enough. (Reminds me of a lot of religions out there actually)
And this contributes to a life where you feel radically behind and inadequate all of the fucking time.
And I’m done with it.
You, right now, are so whole, so good and so worthy of enjoying your life now.
Not when you've lost 5 more kg, not when you really tackled that limiting belief, not after you meditate tomorrow morning and definitely not after you make more money in your business, for fucks sake.
I posted this thread today in pure reaction to these thoughts and feelings I have been having…
