Roll call and side quest reminder  “Give your nervous system a hug”.

 

Yep. Hugs a plenty. We need em.

 

Let’s talk about the endless quest for regulation where normal human emotions like anxiety and anger have become pathologised as things you need rescuing from.

 

Aaargh. I call nonsense.

The biggest hug I ever gave my nervous system was the moment I learned that mischief is caused not by our feeling, but our feeling about that feeling.

 

It’s not the feeling anxious. It’s feeling worried about feeling anxious.

It’s not the feeling angry. It’s feeling shame about feeling angry.

 

In my DEAL HEAL MANIFEST methodology when we deal we aren’t rushing to fix. We aren’t stacking feelings. We’re just getting curious.

 

Don’t get me wrong, if we’re stuck for too long or we get in a loop of really disproportionate responses of course we might want to make some moves that help.

 

But our starting point isn’t that normal human emotions are somehow wrong.

 

And ahhh that is a hug and a sigh of relief right there ❤️