The wisdom of 81 years and the joy of becoming yourself, fully.
One quiet morning, as the sun nudged the world awake, a thought floated into my mind like a leaf on still water:
“I want to be just like me when I grow up.”
It made me laugh — not out of irony, but because of the truth nestled in it. After 81 years of living, grieving, healing, and helping others find light in the dark, I realized something astonishing: the me I once chased was the me I already am.
🌌 Becoming Isn't About Changing — It's About Remembering
Becoming yourself is less about striving and more about remembering who you were before the world told you otherwise.
As a child, I talked to trees, whispered to birds, and felt the emotions of people and places like wind on my skin. That sensitivity became my compass, guiding me through a life of service — as a psychic, a medium, a minister, and at times, even a detective called to illuminate the unseen.
But becoming “me” — truly me — meant coming back to that open-hearted wonder. The sacred silliness. The unfiltered truth.
"At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want." – Lao Tzu
🌀 Tip: The next time you catch yourself trying to become something, pause. Ask: Am I really becoming, or am I remembering?
🎙️ Talk to Life — And Life Talks Back
Yes, I talk to furniture. I thank my teacup for holding warmth. I greet my plants in the morning. I speak out loud to the stars and send blessings to strangers across the world through my heart’s signal.
Call it what you will — weird, whimsical, woo-woo — but in truth, it’s connection. It’s recognizing that everything around us is alive with energy. And when you speak to life with reverence, it speaks back in mysterious and joyful ways.
“The universe is not outside of you. Look inside yourself; everything that you want, you already are.” – Rumi
🌱 Tip: Try this for a week: greet one inanimate object out loud each morning. See what changes in your energy.
A recent study by the University of Tokyo even found that people who interact with objects as if they are sentient feel less lonely and more emotionally grounded. So yes — go ahead and thank your keys!
✨ Your Weird Is Your Wisdom
If I’d spent my life trying to “fit in,” I’d have missed the calling that changed lives — including my own.
My psychic work helped solve crimes. I’ve received honorary badges for it. I didn’t choose it as a career… it was a soul assignment. And it required trusting my inner voice when logic had no answers.
Your quirks? Your strangeness? Your “otherness”? That’s not what disqualifies you — it’s what qualifies you.
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it.” – Howard Thurman
🎯 Tip: Write down five things about yourself you’ve been told are “too much.” Then write next to each: This is my gift. Let it become a new kind of mantra.
💫 The Universal Network Is Always Online
I’ve long believed in the cosmic web that links all things — not just people, but plants, pets, ancestors, stars, and the divine unknown. When I focus my mind and heart on sending love, prayers, or even information across that network, it gets received.
Call it prayer. Call it energy. Call it universal Wi-Fi. But never doubt its reach.
Harvard research into “nonlocal consciousness” and intention-based healing continues to point toward a reality where thoughts and emotions can indeed influence and connect across time and space.
"We are all just walking each other home." – Ram Dass
💌 Tip: Each morning, send one loving thought across the universal network — to a person, a place, or even a planet. Imagine it landing, like a gentle kiss on the forehead of the universe.
🕯️ There Is Joy on the Other Side of Pain
I’ve walked through unimaginable loss. I’ve sat with crime victims and channeled voices from beyond. I’ve felt sorrow that stretched my soul until I thought it might snap.
And still, joy came — not in spite of the pain, but because of what the pain opened in me.
If you’ve ever felt broken beyond repair, let me say this clearly: you’re not broken. You’re breaking open. And joy lives on the other side.
“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” – Khalil Gibran
🌻 Tip: Each evening, write down one small thing that brought you joy that day — even if it was just the way the sunlight hit the wall.
🪞 So, Who Do You Want to Be When You Grow Up?
Not a celebrity. Not someone thinner, richer, younger, or more polished.
But you — with nothing held back.
The 81-year-old me wants to be just like me. The 30-year-old me was trying to become someone. But now? I just want to keep being who I already am — and invite you to do the same.
There’s nothing more magnetic than a person who’s fully themselves.
🌟 Final Thoughts: Coming Home to You
Let this be your invitation — not to chase a new version of yourself, but to come home to the one that’s always been there, waiting patiently beneath the noise.
Be weird. Be wise. Be wild. Be wonderfully you.
Because when you finally arrive at yourself, you’ll realize:
You were never lost. Just becoming.
