December always feels like a pause between who we were this year and who weâre becoming next year. There is so much talk about goal setting and making new year's resolutions. The idea is often ânew year, new you.â ButâŠhow do you make resolutions when every day feels hard?
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This celebratory season can feel overwhelming for anyone experiencing loss, those who are grieving, or those going through an uncertain time. This season can feel like a contraction: grief and gratitude, celebrations and overwhelming stress, loneliness and never ending invitations.
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Lately I have been thinking a lot about what it means to hold hope when life feels messy - as a mom, a psychologist, a human. Â How do we cultivate that audacious hope that gets us from where we might be struggling in 2025 to a place where we overcome in 2026?Â
This month, I want to offer a hope-filled grounding technique as we look toward 2026. Keep reading for a way to help your family reconnect, reset, and imagine the year ahead with intention: the Family Vision Board.
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â⊠Parents model hope, not by being perfect or cheerful, but by holding on to possibility, even in messy or challenging seasons, and modeling emotional regulation, problem solving, and resilience.â
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Why Hope is a Psychological Necessity
Hope is the belief that things can be different with time and effort. Research shows that hope is more than a feel-good idea. It's a psychological resource tied to resilience, emotional regulation, and motivation. As parents, we model hope for our children - especially when life feels uncertain. Kids and teens need adults who can hold both reality and possibility.
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Psychologists describe hope as more than positivity â itâs a motivational engine inside the brain. According to Snyderâs Hope Theory, hope is made up of two parts:
Agency â the belief you can move toward a goal
Pathways â the ability to find different ways to get there
đ±Â Hope Strengthens Resilience
Children and adults with higher levels of hope show greater resilience; theyâre better able to bounce back from stress, adapt to change, and recover from difficult experiences. (C.R. Snyder, Psychological Inquiry, 2002).Â
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đ± Hope Supports Emotional Regulation
Hopeful individuals are more likely to use adaptive coping strategies, regulate their emotions during stress, and stay engaged instead of shutting down. (Snyder et al., Journal of Personality, 1991)
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đ± Hope Fuels Motivation and Goal Directed Behavior
Hope is deeply tied to motivation. When we believe change is possible, the brain stays open, flexible, and willing to try new strategies. (Snyder, Rand, & Sigmon, Handbook of Positive Psychology, 2002)
This Thanksgiving we launched our first ever Cooking + CBT Camp led by Bailey Grunder, LPC-A. Thanksgiving Cooking Camp was a huge hit â kids practiced real CBT and coping skills while whisking, chopping, laughing, and learning to handle frustration with confidence.
I'll sign off this year with a reminder: you donât need the perfect year ahead â you just need hope, intention, and connection.
And if this year wasnât what you hoped it would be, youâre not alone. You have the power to shape something softer, kinder, and more grounded in 2026.