The Wellness Update
December 2025
 
December always feels like a pause between who we were this year and who we’re becoming next year. There is so much talk about goal setting and making new year's resolutions. The idea is often “new year, new you.” But
how do you make resolutions when every day feels hard?
 
This celebratory season can feel overwhelming for anyone experiencing loss, those who are grieving, or those going through an uncertain time. This season can feel like a contraction: grief and gratitude, celebrations and overwhelming stress, loneliness and never ending invitations.
 
Lately I have been thinking a lot about what it means to hold hope when life feels messy - as a mom, a psychologist, a human.  How do we cultivate that audacious hope that gets us from where we might be struggling in 2025 to a place where we overcome in 2026? 

This month, I want to offer a hope-filled grounding technique as we look toward 2026. Keep reading for a way to help your family reconnect, reset, and imagine the year ahead with intention: the Family Vision Board.
 
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 Parents model hope, not by being perfect or cheerful, but by holding on to possibility, even in messy or challenging seasons, and modeling emotional regulation, problem solving, and resilience.”
 
Why Hope is a Psychological Necessity
Hope is the belief that things can be different with time and effort. Research shows that hope is more than a feel-good idea.  It's a psychological resource tied to resilience, emotional regulation, and motivation. As parents, we model hope for our children - especially when life feels uncertain. Kids and teens need adults who can hold both reality and possibility.
 
Psychologists describe hope as more than positivity — it’s a motivational engine inside the brain. According to Snyder’s Hope Theory, hope is made up of two parts:
  • Agency — the belief you can move toward a goal
  • Pathways — the ability to find different ways to get there
đŸŒ±Â  Hope Strengthens Resilience
Children and adults with higher levels of hope show greater resilience; they’re better able to bounce back from stress, adapt to change, and recover from difficult experiences. (C.R. Snyder, Psychological Inquiry, 2002). 
 
đŸŒ± Hope Supports Emotional Regulation
Hopeful individuals are more likely to use adaptive coping strategies, regulate their emotions during stress, and stay engaged instead of shutting down. (Snyder et al., Journal of Personality, 1991)
 
đŸŒ± Hope Fuels Motivation and Goal Directed Behavior
Hope is deeply tied to motivation. When we believe change is possible, the brain stays open, flexible, and willing to try new strategies.  (Snyder, Rand, & Sigmon, Handbook of Positive Psychology, 2002)
 🧠 Why This Matters for families
 
Hope lives in the prefrontal cortex (PFC), the part of the brain responsible for planning, problem-solving, and imagining the future. When this part of the brain is active, kids (and adults) can think flexibly, generate solutions, and stay motivated even when life feels hard. But under stress, the prefrontal cortex goes offline and the emotional brain takes over — which is why everything feels overwhelming. Regulation brings the thinking brain back online, and with it, the return of hope.
 
Hope helps us all imagine solutions, stay flexible when things get hard, and develop the confidence to keep going. And parents model hope, not by being perfect or cheerful, but by holding on to possibility, even in messy or challenging seasons, and modeling emotional regulation, problem solving, and resilience.
The Power of Relection Before Resolution
There is a difference between “New Year’s resolutions” and meaningful, compassionate reflection. Take some time to reflect on 2025 before “grading” your year and zooming in on all the areas you think weren’t good enough.
 
  • Avoid rigid “fix myself” thinking.
  • Ask yourself and your family questions like:
    • What was meaningful this year?
    • What was hard?
    • What took us by surprise?
    • What do we want more or less of in 2026?
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Thanksgiving CBT + Cooking Camp Recap
This Thanksgiving we launched our first ever Cooking + CBT Camp led by Bailey Grunder, LPC-A. Thanksgiving Cooking Camp was a huge hit — kids practiced real CBT and coping skills while whisking, chopping, laughing, and learning to handle frustration with confidence.
 
Accepting New Clients
  • Bailey, LPC-A, still has openings for children, teens, and young adults who need support with OCD, anxiety, disordered eating, and self confidence.
  • Carla Wall, LPC-A, has openings for children, teens, and families seeking support with OCD, anxiety, ADHD, and emotional regulation.
  • Allison Leibman, LPC-A, has limited availability for young adults and parents navigating ocd, anxiety, phobias, or panic.
 
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Happy Holidays from our team to your family
Our team snuck away for a night of putt-putt and dinner, and as we laughed our way through the course, it was a perfect reminder of how grateful we are for our team and for the families we serve. Thank you for trusting us, for doing the brave work alongside your kids, and for being part of this growing, resilient community.

I'll sign off this year with a reminder: you don’t need the perfect year ahead — you just need hope, intention, and connection.

And if this year wasn’t what you hoped it would be, you’re not alone. You have the power to shape something softer, kinder, and more grounded in 2026.

Always honored to be on this journey with you. 
-Dr. Ivy Ruths, PhD
 
Licensed Psychologist
Founder & Clinical Director
Houston Anxiety & Wellness Center

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