Happy Sunday Everyone! This week's article is coming from a conversation I had with a client recently (permission has been given to share without their identity.) I saw a client for spiritual counseling and she kept complaining about how rude people are today and how angry it makes her and how much she hates life.

 

My question to her was “how do you handle it when someone is being rude?” Her response is “I give it right back to them, I am not going to let them get away with it.” I then asked why is it a competition for you? When asked what I meant I repeated her statement of “I am not going to let them get away with it” and asked what is the IT and what are you allowing them to “get away with?”

 

This person was taking what other people were doing and saying personally and I asked them how can it be personal when this is someone you don't even know? It can't be personal so what is the real issue?

 

The real issue is they are reacting to other people's stuff and in doing so they are doing the exact behavior they are complaining about in everyone else. So, we talked about how can they stop reacting and become the person they want everyone else to be! You see just like my last article on happiness, everything is an inside job.

 

If someone's behavior angers me I have to look inward and ask why? Then I look at how it's making me react and then I choose not to be reactive, but rather proactive. Example of this while in a store someone bumped into me and instead of saying excuse me turned and said “well if you weren't so large I wouldn't have bumped you.” So many comebacks ran through my head, but what would that serve?

 

I chose instead to smile and simply say “I hope people treat you with more kindness than you have me today" and I walked away. This same person saw me again and actually came over and apologized, explained that he was having a horrible day and he shouldn't have taken it out on me! See - IT WAS NOT PERSONAL.

 

I believe we all meant to plant seeds of kindness and inspiration. To get people to look within themselves and the only way we can do that is by example. Be the change you want to see in the world. If you want the world to be more kind than show more kindness. If you want the world to be more accepting than you have to be more accepting.

 

My favorite Michael Jackson song, and I have mentioned this more than once, is “The Man in the Mirror.” Because as that song says “I'm starting with the man in the mirror, I'm asking him to change his ways, and no message could have been any clearer, if you wanna make the world a better place take a look at yourself and then make a change."

 

So, my questions this week is what changes are you willing to make to make this world a better place?

 

 

 

If you have additional questions about Spiritual Counseling/Guidance and if it is for you, please feel free to contact me via e-mail at spiritualpathwaysnh@gmail.com.

 

Namaste,

 

Pat Laurino

Intuitive Energy Healer/Spiritual Psychic/Medium

 

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