Happy Sunday Everyone! I know I have been writing a lot about self-awareness and looking inward and this week is no different. I keep writing about this because I keep seeing people react to what is happening around them and in that reaction only add to the situation they are so angry about.
So, how do we defuse a threatening or offensive situation? You stop reacting! Don't believe me? Try it. People want you to react, they want you to get all upset and confrontational because then you are giving them permission to do the same.
The best defense - DO NOT REACT! It took me years to learn this because I was a very reactive person. Confrontation was an anger release button for me and it was so unhealthy, not to mention all the people I caused harm to along the way.
My inner peace is too important to me to give you power over that. I have learned the best way to win a confrontation is to not react to the person. They want you to react, they want you to get all hot and bothered and when you do not they have no idea what to do and they will begin to squirm.
The key to not being reactive for me is maintaining my inner peace and calm and I do that by meditating every day. I do this by being self-aware. I know my triggers and how those triggers cause me to react so because of this I have learned when I am triggered to take a few deep breaths until my nervous system calms down and that removes that knee jerk reaction.
When I take a deep breath I ask the Universe to help me turn this into a healing experience for both myself and the other person. I ask the Universe to help me plant the seed the other person may need whether that seed is about looking inward and what is really going on with them or to make them aware of their own behaviors.
When someone comes up to me yelling at me because “my beliefs are wrong” I simply let them yell and when they finish I calmly just say “thank you for bringing that to my attention, I will give it some thought” and I walk away. If I turn back I will usually see the person still standing there wondering what just happened.
You see they expecting me to defend myself and my beliefs, but here is the thing neither needs to be defended. I do not need to convince you that my beliefs are right or wrong. I do not owe you an explanation about my life or beliefs. I do not owe you anything. So, I will continue to live my life.
The biggest thing I see people reacting to today is ICE, but my question is what would happen if everyone stopped reacting to ICE and were proactive instead. What do I mean by that? Well instead of threatening ICE and screaming in their faces or hitting them bats or whatever else what would happen if you were calm? What would happen if you quietly asked an agent how can you help these people? Now, I am not condoning the violence we have been seeing, but I have also been seeing violence against ICE and how is that solving anything? Reaction plus reaction only equals violence.
How would the world change if people stopped reacting to each other? How would the world change if people were more proactive? How do you maintain your inner peace in today's crazy world? How do you portray yourself in a confrontational situation? Do you add to the heat of the situation or are you able to remain calm and bring calmness to a heated situation?
We all have a choice on how we present ourselves and what we bring to this life. But the choice means looking inward and asking the hard questions like “why am I so angry?”, or “am I acting like the people I am complaining about?” or “what was my part in that situation?”
May we all be centers of peace in this world and may we all treat people the way we would want to be treated! We CAN be the change this world needs, how are you willing to change?
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Namaste,
Pat Laurino
Intuitive Energy Healer/Spiritual Psychic/Medium
