When I was visiting my best friend Lauren in Half Moon Bay, California, this past June, we stopped by an open house just around the corner from where she lives.

Tuesday Triage
February 3, 2026

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Hi there,
 
When I was visiting my best friend Lauren in Half Moon Bay, California, this past June, we stopped by an open house just around the corner from where she lives.
 
The moment I stepped inside, I stopped being a casual observer. I chatted with the real estate agent. I asked to see the backyard shed, the one where I’d be recording my podcast. And, I scoped out the fence to see what changes I’d need to make to keep all 3 of our dogs on the right side of it.
 
We’re not moving. For many reasons, it’s not an option right now. But situations change. And I’m a big believer in gathering information before you need it, so that when an opportunity does arise, you can make an informed decision instead of a reactive one.
 
Where you live isn’t just an emotional decision. It’s also a legal one. And in estate planning, geography matters far more than most people realize. That question—where does it make sense to live?—is what sparked today’s Tuesday Triage episode.
 
A listener named Roberta, who owns property in multiple states — Washington, DC, Maine, Georgia, Kentucky— wrote in because she wanted to know where she should be domiciled from an estate tax perspective.
 
Today’s episode tackles state estate taxes as one piece of a much larger decision-making puzzle.
 
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Here are a few things you might be surprised to learn:
 
• You can’t just “pick” a low-tax state and call it home. Domicile is about intent plus facts: driver’s license, voting, where you actually spend at least 183 days a year.
 
• Some states tax you even if you don’t live there. Own real estate in Maine? Maine wants a tax return and possibly a check.
 
• Estate taxes and inheritance taxes are not the same thing. One is paid by the estate. The other is paid by the person receiving the inheritance.
 
• Who your beneficiaries are can matter as much as where you live. In states like Kentucky, close family may owe nothing, while a best friend could face a significant tax bill.
 
Check out today's episode where we untangle the overlapping state and federal laws that can make planning for multiple residences more challenging.

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If this episode highlighted how many moving pieces there are in estate planning, you’re not alone.
 
The Death Readiness Playbook was created for this exact moment. It bridges the gap between legal documents and real life by helping you organize information, clarify decisions, and give the people you love a clear place to start—no matter where you live or what you own.
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Thanks for being here.
Jill
 
 
 
 
 
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