Hi First name / Slothy!
Today is the spring equinox. Nature’s new year.
Which means the internet is full of messages about fresh starts and reinvention.
But instead of thinking you need to completely start over or reinvent who you are, I want to catch you right here and nurture the version of you that exists today… and is perfectly fine.
Because the reality is, not every hard moment means you need to start over.
This week, I came to that realization myself after a really tough client experience.
It knocked me out of my spirit.
It had me questioning myself. My abilities. What I’ve built. Where this is all going.
And while the situation itself was stressful, what made it worse was how quickly I spiraled.
The way I was talking to myself really took me down.
So I had to pause and do all the things we know help (step away, go for a walk, take a shower, etc.).
And when I finally gave myself enough space to look at the situation clearly, I realized it wasn’t just the situation that caused me to spiral.
It was the fact that I had stepped away from my own boundaries.
The values I built this business on were compromised in an attempt to be flexible… to make things work… to keep things moving in a challenging economy.
But those boundaries exist for a reason.
They protect me.
They protect my clients.
They protect the experience.
And when I let even a small crack form, it created space for stress to creep in.
That shift in perspective changed everything.
Once I could see the situation for what it was—and how I got there—I felt more in control. The spiral stopped.
Because now, instead of letting this moment define me, I can actually use it to make adjustments.
I no longer view what happened as a failure… or even a mistake.
It’s just a moment.
A moment I can learn from.
A moment I can take what I need from.
Because that’s really the point of this big, messy, beautiful life.
There isn’t a version of life where you have zero bad moments. There isn’t a day where you’re suddenly “done” reinventing yourself.
There will always be ups and downs. Moments that test you. Moments that give you something to consider.
That’s why people say it’s about the journey, not the destination.
One moment doesn’t (and shouldn’t) define you.
Not the hard ones.
Not even the good ones.
They’re just data points. Feedback. Information.
And when you treat them that way, you stop spiraling… and start moving forward with clarity.
So here’s what I want you to think about this week:
What’s one moment you’ve been using to define yourself?
