Hi First name / friend,

This week, I had the privilege of leading a grief ritual for one of the women in my entrepreneur mastermind, witnessed by the other women in our cohort ♥️

 

The intention was to integrate her past identity with her business, saying goodbye in a way where she would still always be with her.

 

Both she and the ritual were glorious.

 

Throughout it, we laughed a lot and played, like starting off with a booty shake to let some energy discharge 💃🏻

 

 

 

 

A belief I’ve heard from many I’ve worked with.

 

She had been taught that her anger — her feminine fire — shouldn't be expressed in the world. It would be destructive, scare others, and make them uncomfortable.

 

After she referenced a scene in The Shining where someone was foaming at the mouth and looked “ghoulish,” I responded:

 

 

 

 

As people of the global majority, and especially as women, we are taught to suppress our anger and not express any emotions.

 

Instead, we keep our head down, stay submissive, and the experiences we’ve gone through stay locked in our body.

 

 

Historically, those in power benefitted when colonized groups feared their righteous anger. They were far less likely to rise up and easier to control.

 

Part of the work in coming back to ourselves, both as an individual and as a group of people, is reclaiming our anger and human expression that’s been conditioned out of us.

 

What happens when we see and trust our anger, for the beautiful things she holds? 🤲🏼

 

We reclaim our life force, our power, our creativity, our voice 🔥

 

We can set boundaries, stand up for ourselves, know what we care about, and change the world.

 

 

We don’t stick around for people and jobs and situations that feel misaligned. We feel the anger in our bodies and can no longer ignore it.

 

When we see our anger like a friend instead of our enemy, it doesn’t need to go from 0 to 100.
 

We learn what the gradations of anger feel like in our body, at 10%, 20%, 50%. And instead of letting it seep out, we release our anger, annoyance, frustrations bit by bit.

 

We model for others: with the right tools and support, healthy anger is possible. And they are worth standing up for, too.

 

 

As we continued to talk and check in with her body, she felt her life force coming back.

 

 

With that, she began to express what she was angry about — in her previous work, in that world, in the people she’s come across.

 

Like spoken word, the sentences began rolling off her tongue. “I’m angry at…” flowing more and more naturally.
 

I was mesmerized.

 

 

As we closed things out, the group acknowledged her rawness and power. She shared that it felt like Pandora’s box had been opened.
 

 

 

And I'd love to have a gentle conversation 🥰✨

 

If you have other topics you'd like to explore, I'd love to hear!

About Tiff Shieh 👋🏼

 

Welcome! I'm Tiff. I’m a Relationship & Intimacy Coach supporting sensitive, intuitive humans in building self-trust, reclaiming their voice, and coming home to themselves.

 

Whether you're leaving a relationship, reigniting the spark in one, or choosing bravely to love again, our work is about deepening intimacy with yourself and reconnecting with the kind of safety and aliveness that sets you free.