In 2016 I was a happily-pregnant work-addicted people pleaser in a job I loved with pretty much Entirely Externalised Self-Worth. 

 

I knew the way I worked wouldn't work once that baby arrived and so I set about trying to figure out how to get a handle on my time. I did that (to extraordinary effect) but something else happened too….

 

 

Not overnight, but incrementally… and without even realising it. 

 

I had set out to deal with the logistics of my boundary-less, work-addicted life - post-baby - and ended up relinquishing a multi-decade long tenure as a people pleaser and finally FINALLY learning how to say NO.

I know, love and work with a lot of people pleasers and it's crazy to me that some of these people never even knew me as a people pleaser. But, people pleaser I was and people pleaser I am no more. 

 

Letting go of the fear of other people not liking you, of their opinions and reactions, is liberating AND doable! 

 

 

Efforts to stop people pleasing aren't license to never help, to never say yes or never put your wants aside to do the right thing. 

 

Want to hear what else I have to say on the topic? 

 

Listen to the latest episode of The Rewriters podcast where I lift the lid on how I overcame people pleasing, and share thoughts and tips on how you can too… 

 

THE REWRITERS COMMUNITY is my private membership for professional women transforming how they work and live – on their terms and at their pace. Membership includes special members events and workshops, monthly accountability sessions, weekly accountability check-ins, quarterly 1:1 private coaching interventions with me, access to a catalogue of resources, an online community hub - and to be alongside other empowering and empathetic women from around the world. 

 

That's all for this month First name / Rewriter, I hope you have a wonderful month, free of people pleasing! :)