Happy Sunday Everyone! This week I want to talk about the importance of accountability. This lesson came back to me this week as I needed to hold myself accountable for my attitude.

 

As you all know I live with chronic pain and a number of spinal issues and mobility issues and some days I find it difficult to navigate it all. Well this week I completely over did it and I knew I was pushing myself.

 

I went to Maine last weekend from Friday - Sunday with my cousin. Well between the walking, standing, and getting in and out of her car many times during the day put me in a bad place pain wise. 

 

Unfortunately I needed to continue to push myself for my cousin dropped me off on Sunday where we met up with Tim and then Tim and I headed for Massachusetts to pick up my aunt who was coming up for the week - poor planning on my part.

 

Well I am embarrassed to admit the first couple of days of my aunt being here I was miserable and extremely short-tempered towards my aunt and Tim. Fortunately Tim always holds me accountable and calls me out when I am not handling my emotions well. 

 

At first I was annoyed that he called me out, but here's the thing, I was not annoyed with Tim, I was annoyed with myself. Why? Because he was right. I was speaking to my aunt very disrespectfully and I got angry at myself.

 

I needed to take a deep breath and take a step back and make my apologies to both my aunt and Tim and change my attitude. I was still in pain, but that is not their fault and pain does not give me a right to be a bitch. 

 

My aunt being her gracious self told me “you weren't a bitch, you're fine.” To which I told her no it's not fine and I never want to treat her poorly. 

 

This week reminded me to pay more attention to my personal needs in order to manage my pain levels. But it also showed me again that pain or whatever may be going on with me does not give me the right to mistreat people.

 

I guess my question this week is how do you handle days when you are not at your best? What practices do you have in place for self-care? And more importantly do you make amends when you take frustrations out on others?

 

I never want to be one of those people who becomes miserable to be around because I am allowing what is happening inside me to determine how I treat someone else. I am learning when I have days where I just can't be social to honor those days without guilt or feeling like I am failing. It is not failing to practice self-care.

 

I am grateful that Tim will and does call me out so I can take a breath and reevaluate my behavior. We are all human and therefore imperfect, the important thing is not to beat yourself up for your short-comings, but to treat yourself with forgiveness and kindness and do what you need to make amends to anyone you may have harmed.

 

I am accountable for my actions and words no one else, just me. And I will always make amends when those actions and words cause harm.

 

Do you hold yourself accountable? Do you have that one person who will call you out when you may be a bit off? What actions do you take when this happens? 

 

This week I learned more about myself and I did not like what I was seeing. Today I am grateful I have someone who will call me out so I can take a step back and reevaluate my actions. 

 

May we all find the ability to forgive ourselves when we are less than perfect.

 

 

 

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Namaste,

 

Pat Laurino

Intuitive Energy Healer/Spiritual Psychic/Medium

 

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