Happy Sunday Everyone! This week I want to talk about why I do not believe in the shoulda, coulda, woulda's. Those three words only serve to make you feel guilty. They serve no other purpose.

 

Do you find yourself looking back at certain situations in your life and beating yourself up with the “I should have”, “I could have”, or “I would have”? How do you feel when you do this? 

 

So why do we beat ourselves up with the shoulda, coulda, woulda? I know I used to do it, especially around a friends suicide. I did the shoulda, coulda, woulda's for years only making myself feel worse. The truth is there is nothing I could have done or said that would changed that outcome. 

 

How do we let go of the shoulda, coulda, woulda's? We accept. We accept the person, place and situation for exactly as it is. We accept that there was nothing we could have done to change it. We accept it and move forward without judgement.

 

Because that is what the shoulda, coulda, woulda's are - judgement. It's remembering that everyone person has their own path and it may be painful for us to watch them go down a certain path, but it is their path none-the-less we can not rob anyone of their life lessons.

 

I no longer play the woulda, coulda, shoulda's in my head. I just accept things on life terms today. I have learned the hard way that I am powerless to save anyone from themselves, they have to safe themself. So I accept my lessons with gratitude and thank the lesson once I have learned it.

 

Do the woulda, coulda, shoulda's still haunt your life? Do you carry a guilt that isn't yours to carry? Isn't it time to release that energy and accept the situations that you cannot change and finally find peace?

 

My hope is that you all can release that guilt from your life and truly accept life's plan for yourself and your loved ones. Release those coulda, woulda, shoulda's from your life today!

 

 

 

If you have additional questions about Spiritual Counseling/Guidance and if it is for you, please feel free to contact me via e-mail at spiritualpathwaysnh@gmail.com.

 

Namaste,

 

Pat Laurino

Intuitive Energy Healer/Spiritual Psychic/Medium

 

 

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