Oh heyyyy. I've been so consumed with the news these days, I didn't have it in me to produce a newsletter the last few weeks. I've lacked the mental capacity to write about anything other than what's happening around the world, and my regular content and newsletter felt trivial. However, if you follow me on Instagram, you know I haven't stopped talking about it. With all that said, I'm back. Slowly resuming content, with a heavy heart. But I've missed our Friday conversations, and I am excited to be sending out a newsletter again. But also, happy November. You know what that means. |
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Thank you for being here for all of me. The silly videos I make, the home decor content, my thoughts on current events, these weekly newsletters, all of it. I appreciate you. Especially those of you that disagree with me, and stay in this space as we learn from each other. I hope we always hold space for curiosity and kindness in our hearts. Alright…back to regular programming. Love you, mean it. |
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Weekly fun fact you didn't ask for |
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Link between illness and being nice |
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Dr. Gabor Mate was on The Diary of a CEO podcast last week. He talked about the link between being nice and illness, and I highly recommend listening. The entire episode is linked here, however I'm sharing some highlights below. As a recovering (well, in the process of) people pleaser, this episode shook me to my core. Dr. Gabor reviewed countless studies and research around how people pleasers tend to develop diseases, and the links between being “nice” and several illnesses, including cancer. And as his popular book states, when you don't know how to say no, your body will say no for you. And before many of you rush to respond to this email that we should all be nice, let me break his explanation down further. There are two places to be nice from, he explains. One is genuine human compassion and concern for others, but you're still grounded in yourself. This one is great. The second, which is dangerous to your health, are the people who are very nice because they're afraid not to be. They want to be well liked. These people always put others before them, and are chronically serving other's needs before their own. This is when the host chimed in and talked about his “nicest” friend and how she is always sick. And this is when I dropped my laundry basket of clothes when I was listening because HI. I AM HER. SHE IS ME. I am literally always sick. And well, I have a problem saying no. Dr. Gabor goes on to discuss the contest between attachment and authenticity. If you're authentic, you may lose some attachment relationships. But which pain would you rather have, the pain of being authentic and losing some friendships or the pain of losing yourself and all its implications on the body? But also, why had I never thought of being too “nice” as inauthentic? Fascinating. He also added that in the book, The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying, the number one regret was not living an authentic life. The entire episode was so good. I decided to continue a very similar conversation with my Instagram community in this week's community highlight below. |
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Weekly Community spotlight |
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I shared this video on my Instagram this week regarding what being a “nice” person vs a “good” person means. And ooouuffff. Y'all had a lot to say. I wish I could've shared them all, but below is a highlight. Such good conversations. |
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Tweets/threads that made me giggle |
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What you missed on Instagram |
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*thank you to everyone that always likes and comments on my posts, it helps me immensely, and I'm incredibly grateful. |
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Other things I loved this week |
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