April 16th, 2026
Something that erodes trust: when people think they're weighing in on a decision that has already been made.
If a decision has been made, say so. Clearly and kindly. 🙂 What people are often actually being asked to weigh in on is how that decision gets implemented. Separating those two things matters more than we think.
It might sound like this:
"A decision has been made about [x]. Here's the reasoning behind it."
Then, invite real engagement around the implementation:
- What gets you excited about this?
- What do you need to feel supported as we move forward?
Then invite the group to think together about what successful implementation actually looks like. That's where people can genuinely contribute, and that's where trust gets built!
As I've written before, in this letter
Anchoring Principles, one of my favorite reminders applies here: “
Clear is kind, unclear is unkind.” (Brené Brown)
Being clear about what is and isn't up for discussion is one of the most respectful things you can do for the people around you, at work and beyond.
A Next Step
Take a look at an upcoming conversation or meeting. Is it clear to everyone in the room what's decided and what's still open? If not, that's your chance to be clear.
