I started Jay Shetty's new book, 8 Rules of Love. I'm only halfway through, but wanted to share a couple studies from the first chapter that I found fascinating. Jay starts the book with the first rule: Let yourself be alone. As you can imagine, as an introvert, I was wildly excited to learn more.
There were several scientific studies, but the one that stood out to me was the one they conducted at an art museum with different groups of people--those who entered alone vs. those who went with someone else. The study showed that those who weren't distracted by talking to a companion had a stronger emotional response to art, and they were able to experience the exhibition with all their senses open. On the flip side, those who entered the exhibition with the group reported their visit as less thought provoking and emotionally stimulating than those who went alone. Now as Jay puts it, there's nothing wrong with chatting and enjoying time, but think of the inspiration those visitors missed out on, and then apply it to life.
When we surround ourselves with other people, we are missing out on the chance to reflect and understand ourselves better. Studies show that if we never allow ourselves solitude, it's just plain harder for us to learn. Another study with talented teenagers shows that many failed to develop their skills, not because they have cognitive deficits, but because they can't stand to be alone. Their research found that young people were less likely to develop creative skills like playing an instrument or writing because the most effective practice of these abilities is often done while alone. Like those talented teenagers, when we avoid solitude, we struggle to develop our skills.
Jay goes on to share other studies and the impact that solitude has on how we think and formulate opinions. I obviously love and cherish my alone time, and it was so interesting to learn the affects that has on myself and my relationship.
